I am responding to my beloved Anedra's posting on changing jobs. Rasa mcm tak puas talking about it kan Anedra? But this time with a slight twist.
Has it ever hit you someday that you would like to be someone else? Don’t get me wrong, not to be like Zsa Zsa Gabor or Brooke Shields, but if you're a homemaker, that you would like to go to work and for those who have a high flying career, would like to be a happy sweet homemaker instead?
I have been all three, a homemaker, a part time career woman and now, a full time career woman.
Has it ever hit you someday that you would like to be someone else? Don’t get me wrong, not to be like Zsa Zsa Gabor or Brooke Shields, but if you're a homemaker, that you would like to go to work and for those who have a high flying career, would like to be a happy sweet homemaker instead?
I have been all three, a homemaker, a part time career woman and now, a full time career woman.
Being a homemaker, I can say this again, with kids in school, I respect the homemakers! Some might think that homemaker is not a glamorous job. Or some might think that homemakers are 'dumb', then they are totally wrong! Housework is a never ending task. You make breakfast, you wake the kids up with kisses, then you make sure the kids take their showers, are well fed and then pack them lunch (or some don't give them money). Then you send them off to school. And then you go to the market, thinking of what to cook for dinner. Asam pedas dah semalam, kari dah kelmarin, masak aper eh? Yang mana suami balik for lunch tuh, by 12pm dah kena tersaji aper yang harus dimasak. Lepas tuh, lipat kain dan jemur baju yang mana belum terbuat. Lepas tuh dah malam, tolong bebudak buat homework….sampailah tertidur dan kain baju belum habis dilipat!
Half day career woman? Ahhh, pepagi masuk kerja so fresh, you spend 2 hours of your 4 hour work day talking about the kids or gossiping. Lepas tuh balik rumah kalau bebudak sekolah petang, ada chance tidur sampai petang sikit. Yang mana budak sekolah lagi tuh, hai terpaksa ambik dorang dan kasi makan dan pergi mengaji, lepas tuh, buatlah homework bersama mereka. Petang pergi park…kata orang tuh, anginkan mereka (air them out)? Well balance life for me.
Full time career woman, that’s what I am now. Spend a good 30 mins of my work time blogging! Boss belum masuk, sudah kes bagus, boleh extend from 30 mins to 45 mins. Others think that I am typing an important blast email(as usual). I am not expecting a full staffed management today, so I know that my day will be slightly OK. The right side of my cubicle, tray filled with confidential papers to consolidate or take action upon. Once I start working, I tend to forget to take breaks. Pekerja contohlah katakan (cewah). I get occasional phone calls from home, on how to solve the little girls problem, on how to help 'look' for my husband's stuff (how to cari when you're here at the office). Tup tup, eh 5:30pm already, time to go home!
Sampai rumah, thanks to a helpful husband, dinner's cooked, kids watching the news and cats waiting in the driveway. If not for my husband, I would have to cook dinner! If it’s the summer, there would be no homework but a pep talk session with the kids. They will tell their daily events at the recreational center, about boys, about girls etc etc. Sometimes they would have their friends over for dinner (which we fully encourage) and me being the 'suka melayan' mom, I would sit with the girls and talk (or more to gossip?) with them. So much fun!
Chores? Kids are there to help me clean the kitchen (that’s why they get paid allowances), and I help with teeny chores like washing my own plates hehe. Oh yeah, I do clean my room tau! I'll finish the laundry and help fold them and clean up the mess and spray Febreeze all over the carpet. And I also comb my Pinky, she loves being combed!
Full time career woman, that’s what I am now. Spend a good 30 mins of my work time blogging! Boss belum masuk, sudah kes bagus, boleh extend from 30 mins to 45 mins. Others think that I am typing an important blast email(as usual). I am not expecting a full staffed management today, so I know that my day will be slightly OK. The right side of my cubicle, tray filled with confidential papers to consolidate or take action upon. Once I start working, I tend to forget to take breaks. Pekerja contohlah katakan (cewah). I get occasional phone calls from home, on how to solve the little girls problem, on how to help 'look' for my husband's stuff (how to cari when you're here at the office). Tup tup, eh 5:30pm already, time to go home!
Sampai rumah, thanks to a helpful husband, dinner's cooked, kids watching the news and cats waiting in the driveway. If not for my husband, I would have to cook dinner! If it’s the summer, there would be no homework but a pep talk session with the kids. They will tell their daily events at the recreational center, about boys, about girls etc etc. Sometimes they would have their friends over for dinner (which we fully encourage) and me being the 'suka melayan' mom, I would sit with the girls and talk (or more to gossip?) with them. So much fun!
Chores? Kids are there to help me clean the kitchen (that’s why they get paid allowances), and I help with teeny chores like washing my own plates hehe. Oh yeah, I do clean my room tau! I'll finish the laundry and help fold them and clean up the mess and spray Febreeze all over the carpet. And I also comb my Pinky, she loves being combed!
If I had a choice, yes I would love to work part time again. I would be someday. But I wouldn’t mind working full time just to take more challenges in my career. But hey, if one day I feel that I need to retire and be a full time homemaker, then I would! Who knows, when I get my 3rd baby, I might just tell the husband that I am going to support full time 'susu cap gantung' and be home to feed the baby.
10 comments:
babes,
i would love to have a part-time job too and only have to handle some of the housework (assuming that I'll hv to cut down on the current domestic help lah). It is possible but the key word is "helpful husband", which you have and I errrr... lets put it this way..Mine has to go for some brainwashing. Then it'll work! like I always say..there's so much i;ve gotta learn from u!
mammal, isnt it NICER to be a homemaker and rich at the same time? you have the maid to do the chores, and all u do is masak while she cleans and does the laundry. then we could go shopping everyday or go to some mesyuarat tingkap. balik rumah suma teratur!
masturah, it is what it is my dear. if u're fated to be a kakak, then a kakak u will be some day!
After observing my aunt, who has been a full-time homemaker the last 20 years, then I realize what a difficult job it is!! But kudos to all the housewives!! It's the most demanding and respected jobs, ever. Non-stop thinking about kids, cooking, cleaning, problem-solving.
I'm not in that position yet, so I cannot answer Ely's question :) But I think when the time comes, it will be one of the biggest decisions to make - stay home or work. Wish maids were not that expensive to hire out there! But then, at this time and age, I will never feel safe with one in the house... [unless she has lots of positive references ;) ]
ya, the highest respect to homemakers - dont know how our mothers did it! I think people just dont know and appreciate what stayathome mums do. Some choose to stay at home and give quality time and devotion to children and what's so wrong abt that? my sister for example, gave up work and produce some lovely kids!
and dont forget our very own nazrah! such talent behind those stoves!
ehem..ehem..thank u kak teh, thank you
-one of yr sister's "lovely" children-
hartini, thats what being a housewife is all abt. solving problems!
kak teh, betul tuh. kudos to my mom too. and people like nazrah stay home and kemas and masak and jaga her lil precious one and chat with her friends too hehehe. all the talents terpendam dlm diam.
aiyoh, tiba2 rasa pungkork ku kembang.cocok cepat kakteh!
apa saja la you all ni...thank you anyway.
i duduk rumah bukan tak kerja beb
1. i do professional work from home
2.cannot bear to have a live-in maid in hot pants scrubbing my floors, no way!
3.ter-over kesian and sayang aishah.full stop.
working moms have to kemas and cook also ma.balik kena sayang2 semua orang lagi..lagi la tabik spring.
the only thing that's different is that i am my own boss(ke aishah yg boss?)
u're still the best regardless, my twin!!!! muah muah!
I think women job never ends be it single or married... In my opinion, homemaker and a mother is a great job in the entire world.. ;)I won't call them homemaker though.. I would called them the domestic engineer.. since they have to solve many problems at home.. ;)
suriyati, they can also be called, marketing manager and financial analysis :)
EH, yeah do what u need to do. right now, the baby comes first and foremost on top of others.
its hard to look for an ugly maid. most of them are young hehehe.
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