I wanted to say thank you for your kind comments in my previous entry.
I think this week has not been going pretty well. Besides having the 'evening' sickness visit me after 4 weeks of not visiting, past 2 days had not been that smooth sailing for me.
Support : that’s one emotional element that I had been giving support…to my 2 co workers.
For the closer co worker whos on bed rest and had lost one of her set of twins, I have been calling her every morning to make sure that shes ok. She seems to be getting better and better each day. Being on bed rest is not a fun thing to do. All she could do is watch tv, read a magazine and whenever she gets up to make breakfast or anything else, she would feel guilty and jumps back in bed. This is for the sake of the other baby that’s still in her. All I said to her is to relax. And when she comes back to work on Tuesday, she needs to be ready and hopefully her sadness would somewhat be kept far behind her head as she has another baby in her to grow and be happy. If she were to be sad and mope overt her loss, then she will distress herself and the baby might be at risk.
As for the other one…the first time mom. She called me at work from the off site class yesterday. Hmmm…she is not believing what the Dr said. She had an ultrasound on Monday…the baby grew a lil but there was no heartbeat. My co worker says that she is not believing it yet till she sees the blood test result and see another gynaecologist. Although the Dr says that it will be a waste of time, I suppose that my co worker has the right to do it. But I told her one thing,'Remember, things might not go your way after all this. It is not the end of the world. You're still young and you can try again. It is just not meant to be and you know that we all here will be here to support you'. Now…would that make a person bawl? She did. It is hard sometimes being a friend. We share the happiness and sadness in life, but the fact of life still needs to be advise upon should things don’t go their way. A friend can't just keep consoling but a friend also need to give a factual theory of life yes?
This is me. My friends can find me anytime they want…a friend who is ready to give advise and support…provided that they do the same when I need them.
On a lighter note : The evening sickness kinda came and went. I cannot wear my pre pregnancy pants…can't button, can't hook, can't zip the pants! So I am wearing my maternity clothes and other bigger tops that could sustain the growth of the munchkin. Oh and I have been getting maternity 'hand me downs' from a co worker's wife….phew! At least I wouldn’t have to spend anymore money on clothes that I am going to wear for 6 more months! This morning, the munchkin is fighting for space in the tummy. The slight cramps on the side of the tummy had thrown me off guard sometimes. But I know theres going to be more to come.
I think this week has not been going pretty well. Besides having the 'evening' sickness visit me after 4 weeks of not visiting, past 2 days had not been that smooth sailing for me.
Support : that’s one emotional element that I had been giving support…to my 2 co workers.
For the closer co worker whos on bed rest and had lost one of her set of twins, I have been calling her every morning to make sure that shes ok. She seems to be getting better and better each day. Being on bed rest is not a fun thing to do. All she could do is watch tv, read a magazine and whenever she gets up to make breakfast or anything else, she would feel guilty and jumps back in bed. This is for the sake of the other baby that’s still in her. All I said to her is to relax. And when she comes back to work on Tuesday, she needs to be ready and hopefully her sadness would somewhat be kept far behind her head as she has another baby in her to grow and be happy. If she were to be sad and mope overt her loss, then she will distress herself and the baby might be at risk.
As for the other one…the first time mom. She called me at work from the off site class yesterday. Hmmm…she is not believing what the Dr said. She had an ultrasound on Monday…the baby grew a lil but there was no heartbeat. My co worker says that she is not believing it yet till she sees the blood test result and see another gynaecologist. Although the Dr says that it will be a waste of time, I suppose that my co worker has the right to do it. But I told her one thing,'Remember, things might not go your way after all this. It is not the end of the world. You're still young and you can try again. It is just not meant to be and you know that we all here will be here to support you'. Now…would that make a person bawl? She did. It is hard sometimes being a friend. We share the happiness and sadness in life, but the fact of life still needs to be advise upon should things don’t go their way. A friend can't just keep consoling but a friend also need to give a factual theory of life yes?
This is me. My friends can find me anytime they want…a friend who is ready to give advise and support…provided that they do the same when I need them.
On a lighter note : The evening sickness kinda came and went. I cannot wear my pre pregnancy pants…can't button, can't hook, can't zip the pants! So I am wearing my maternity clothes and other bigger tops that could sustain the growth of the munchkin. Oh and I have been getting maternity 'hand me downs' from a co worker's wife….phew! At least I wouldn’t have to spend anymore money on clothes that I am going to wear for 6 more months! This morning, the munchkin is fighting for space in the tummy. The slight cramps on the side of the tummy had thrown me off guard sometimes. But I know theres going to be more to come.
6 comments:
I feel saddened to read about your two colleagues situation. You're a good friend to give them the much needed support at this time.
tak tahu nak cakap apa, sedih about yr frens, harap kak ely sihat dan selamat melahirkan bila tiba waktunya..
think happy thoughts! take care ely.
Pity yr friend. Hope she could cope well.
How is mama ely and the lil one inside there? Wow..start playing football already....soooo cute ...:-))
elyyyy *hugs*
your friends/co workers are lucky to have you around. Now you take care, you hear? And we want pictures..... we want pictures....
Hello! I bloghopped from Baby Alya's blog. You're expecting too? Great! So is my Mummy. Hope to read more about you and your baby! :D
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