Have you ever gotten the hunch if someone does not like you for some reason and is not subtle about it? What would you do? Would you race to cure the situation and ask that individual why he/she doesn’t like you or would you just let it go and let he/she deal with his/her dislikes about you?
I think this is going to be one heck of a 'bitching session' posting today. If you feel like listening to a gossip, please read on, sesiapa yang tengah bayar hutang puasa tuh, read at your own pahala risk ok!
I have worked for this company for 3 years (hurrah hurrah!). Believe it or not, I only started to love my job when I was moved to work directly with my supervisor and the management team of the District Office. Why did I not like my job when I was an underwriter? I mean, I loved being an underwriter, I love my co workers BUT, there is just one person who does not like me. She is one of my team leads.
She does not like me since I started working here. Come on, I get along with EVERYBODY in this world (except my ex husband and the husband's ex girlfriend) but she just does not like me for whatever reason that I will never know. She hates how I dress, she hates my 'cooperativeness' in the section, she would always make a hard time for me to take time off work and many others. Some say that she's always so jealous about me and loves to 'tattle tale' on me to my supervisor (cos some overheard the conversations).
OK I have to admit, being new in this country, at that time, I took her 'bully treatment' which made me feel so miserable. I so wanted to leave my job and go somewhere else. I guess Allah made me stay as I did not get any job offers from other companies…and I am not am impulsive person, to quit just for one person? Nahhhh!!!
So one day, when the boss called me into the office and suggested that I be his assistant, I thought that it would be a good breakthrough for me. Number 1, to be away from her (the boss' office is on the other side of the floor) and number 2, I would not have to report to her.
Today, she just came back from a 6 month sick aka maternity aka 'milking the sickness' leave. The last 6 months without her being around was such pleasure, such serene office and it seemed like noone missed her at all (she was always on sick leave even when she wasn’t sick anyway!).
I said hello to her this morning 'just because' I was walking to my co workers desk. She did not even look up at me but just said hi and fine thanks. And what did I do? Before she could finish saying 'fine thanks' I was already talking to my co worker loudly which meant 'I really don’t care if you don’t answer anyway B***CH!'.
I think really do not want to know WHY she doesn't like me. Since I am working for my boss now and am totally detached from her, I really don’t care. The more she doesn’t like me, the more I am going to prance around her and make her oooooooooh so hateful of me. Well, I don't kiss a*s to be well liked. They either like me for what I am or I am just going to stay happy and work 'around' them whether they like it or not.
Phew…Ely's done with her bitching session. For those who have known me, I am a very easy person to get along with…but I can't make everybody happy just because I am being Ely right?
Ps. The husband would love to call this drama 'Battle of the Bitches!'
I think this is going to be one heck of a 'bitching session' posting today. If you feel like listening to a gossip, please read on, sesiapa yang tengah bayar hutang puasa tuh, read at your own pahala risk ok!
I have worked for this company for 3 years (hurrah hurrah!). Believe it or not, I only started to love my job when I was moved to work directly with my supervisor and the management team of the District Office. Why did I not like my job when I was an underwriter? I mean, I loved being an underwriter, I love my co workers BUT, there is just one person who does not like me. She is one of my team leads.
She does not like me since I started working here. Come on, I get along with EVERYBODY in this world (except my ex husband and the husband's ex girlfriend) but she just does not like me for whatever reason that I will never know. She hates how I dress, she hates my 'cooperativeness' in the section, she would always make a hard time for me to take time off work and many others. Some say that she's always so jealous about me and loves to 'tattle tale' on me to my supervisor (cos some overheard the conversations).
OK I have to admit, being new in this country, at that time, I took her 'bully treatment' which made me feel so miserable. I so wanted to leave my job and go somewhere else. I guess Allah made me stay as I did not get any job offers from other companies…and I am not am impulsive person, to quit just for one person? Nahhhh!!!
So one day, when the boss called me into the office and suggested that I be his assistant, I thought that it would be a good breakthrough for me. Number 1, to be away from her (the boss' office is on the other side of the floor) and number 2, I would not have to report to her.
Today, she just came back from a 6 month sick aka maternity aka 'milking the sickness' leave. The last 6 months without her being around was such pleasure, such serene office and it seemed like noone missed her at all (she was always on sick leave even when she wasn’t sick anyway!).
I said hello to her this morning 'just because' I was walking to my co workers desk. She did not even look up at me but just said hi and fine thanks. And what did I do? Before she could finish saying 'fine thanks' I was already talking to my co worker loudly which meant 'I really don’t care if you don’t answer anyway B***CH!'.
I think really do not want to know WHY she doesn't like me. Since I am working for my boss now and am totally detached from her, I really don’t care. The more she doesn’t like me, the more I am going to prance around her and make her oooooooooh so hateful of me. Well, I don't kiss a*s to be well liked. They either like me for what I am or I am just going to stay happy and work 'around' them whether they like it or not.
Phew…Ely's done with her bitching session. For those who have known me, I am a very easy person to get along with…but I can't make everybody happy just because I am being Ely right?
Ps. The husband would love to call this drama 'Battle of the Bitches!'
17 comments:
babes, you can't make everyone happy and there are just some people that won't like you no matter what! *if everyone likes us then we have nothing to bitch about! hehe!* I have some of my own as well and have them nicely stored in my lil black book!
what's most important is that you like/love yourself and that the people closest and dearest to you love you for whatever and whoever you are!
love ya babes!
buat bodoh dengan dia sudahlah...why waste your energy making her life difficult? This kind of alien kau kena ignore habis-habis and they will soon respect you for not reacting.
Then again, who wants their respect right? Muahahahaha...
mammal, u're one sweet lady. and i love u for that!
i love myself, i really do and i am a confident person. i am just trying my best not to react on her stupidity. but geram jugak tau!
uja, i like ur last part hahaha. for me, the more she doesnt like me, the more i am going to tonyoh myself into her face...how about that?
ely i like you okay? Dont tonyoh yourself into my face okay? It sounds terribly painful and detrimental to my foundation and make up!
dont get affected by her lah ely. Action will lead to reaction, nanti Battle of the Bitches become episodes of Face Tonyohing! Hawhaw... sorry sayang, u are really so funny. Even in anger, you laugh at yourself.
U take care now.
ely, got yr mail. it's ok lah..busy day for me too! tak cukup tangan, otak dan kaki! *oood?? S.O.S?? Nak urut?* emailed u back but keps bouncing, don't know why!
kisskiss!
oody my dear. i know, i do laff at myself when i am mad. dulu i asked myself, what did i do wrong. but now...not anymore. and i like u too oody!!!!
It sounds like that woman is miserable - over 200lbs and always on sick leave. Those are signs enough to say that person is not happy with HERSELF and not with Ely. So I guess to make herself feel good, she tries to bully you or make herself look intimidating (which I'm sure, isn't working).
This is the answer that you will probably not approve: I agree with Uja. That woman is not worth your energy. Why be negative toward her when you can be the usual positive Ely - over time, that would really tear her up actually... but it's up to you really. I just think that she's only looking for attention and she wants you to respond. I have been thru stuff like this before, embarrassing moments too, but what did I do about it? I proved that person wrong and that totally wrecked her. Win-win solution for me. :) Good luck! And I hope you find a solution to this. Stay positive!! :)
kak ely,
im still cheering for u.. 'go ely go!'...hehehehe.
kt opis sini pun ada jugak.and i agree with ur statement 'but I can't make everybody happy just because I am being Ely right?' which in my case, change ur name to mine.
kt sini,solution dia..buat bodo.i love being a lone ranger sometimes..hehee
GO ELY GO! groovey bebeh!
Wah, reading ur blog todaz make me so membara inside.........!!!! Dats the way kak ely, if its me i dun tink i will do the same too. Buat bodoh je, n also continue to irritate her......hehehe....i lak yg jadi batu apa!
i was so engrossed with my books, i tak perasan u had had a bad day twin!
C'mre you..*big hugs*
talk to u soon?
office female canines are not worth your time of day lah Ely.
hartini, u're are so right. i have analyzed her as that too. past 3 yrs i have not reacted to her. she sure has a problem that she needs to settled within herself eh?
nad, i tak biasa jadi lone ranger nih. i am always with my closest co worker or other co workers. work should be fun kan? nak sakit hati pun there no point gitu. thanks for ur support huggs.
anita, yeah thats what i can do, dont react but prance around her. i know that can irritate her to death!
yea yea intan, i have been waiting for u online, ayu's looking for u too. what telah happen?
ailin, bring on ur posting plsssss!!!
Ely, yup, the woman has some issues, no doubt.
Ailin, sounds like your boss needs "some". Muhahahahahahaa!!!!!!
That probably applies to Ely's foe as well.
*teeheheeee*
Jahat aku...!! *evil grin*
there is always someone, somewhere, somebody in any organization who dislike you regardless of who you are or what you do. the best approach is to ignore that person since it does not bring value to you.
hartini, i know what u mean hehehe.
sambog, sometimes when i try to ignore, it just keeps coming back to poke me somewhere else. i learned to deal alot and i still am. just be patient eh? and i still am!
kak ely,
lone ranger bila buat keje,baca blog(..ngehngehgnnehgrhh)..tgk movie kt opis (another evil laugh..hehehehehee..
waktu2 kebanyakkan..still nice to people,mix around..walaupun tau,one or 2 of them are bicthing bout me behind my back..heehee..still kita cool..hehee
Ely,
I think, the best thing to do is stay away as far away as possible from her and don't do anything to irritate her. You never know, someday you might end up working directly under her. Life would really be miserable then. I know because I've seen it happened!
nad, mcm best gitu dpt tgk movie time kerja.
makaji, i had been working under her since 2 yrs back. for all u know, one day, she might be working under me hahahahaha *evil laugh*!
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