Craving for...

I am typing in front of the computer and all of a sudden, I could see cupcake images floating in front of me.

Lunchtime today, will be a mission to look for that perfect cupcake! Its hard when I am in the city as the supermarket is not within walking distance...but cupcake I shall find, if not this afternoon then tonight will be the night!

UPDATE : THURSDAY 08/31/06
Its a late update but I DID find the ultimate cupcake yesterday, just a few hours after blogging about it.

Went to Citizen Cake and got myself and my good friend a chocolate cupcake each. The cupcakes were not cheap...$2.50 per tiny cake but heck...I was happy cos it was good and the cake was moist! Yummy!

Newest craving....another Coach purse muahahahahaha!

I think I am back for now. Yup, the hormones of a pregnant woman, one day she's like a crazy woman, sad and hurt beyond believe and another, she's back to her own self. Believe me, I think I will go through a few more of this before it might (I repeat. MIGHT) go away for good (which I doubt). But I know that I can't stay miserable forever yeah?

Listening to Barry Manilow makes me feel better. Then I discovered this romantic comedy movie called The Wedding Date...watching Dermot Mulroney kinda cheered me up (no husband, you're still the cutest to me!). I also have been watching Shall We Dance (Richard Gere and JLO) for the upteenth time. Besides that, work has not been kind to me, busy to the brim of my 'inbox' in my Outlook email at work. Yes I get busy through emails as my boss works on the 1st floor.

Our San Francisco office is branching to 5 different offices and last week was the 1st move. No, I am not scheduled to move yet but somehow or rather, I get dragged into this process. Listening to the boss whining, asking for opinions of mine (might as well they pay me to be a manager eh?) and dropping last minute (which says 'I need the spreadsheet sent to Real Estate TODAY) bombs to me. Well, made my work week go by very fast, no time to think of high emotions.

I will be 26 weeks pregnant tomorrow. How have I been doing? Heavy, achey, stretchy in the tummy and wobbly. Hungry? At times, and I try very very hard not to eat too much empty calories as my Dr says that 4 lbs of weight increase per month is good enough. I don't know, maybe this time am 5 lbs fatter cos I feel huge!

Some maternity clothes are in their last days use, can't stretch as much as my tummy anymore. The baby has been very merciless to me. Stretching and kicking as and when she pleases. Last night, she kept me up every hour while she was doing her aerobics and bhangra moves. I wonder if the cat could feel the kick as the cat had her head leaning against my tummy!

I just discovered something unique when pregnant:
1)that my tummy is a good 'dock' for putting post it notes when I am away from my desk or having a meeting while standing up.

2) that things would fall off my hand and onto the tummy before hitting the floor, so if I am fast, I could catch it and not have to bend down!

3) that my tummy can be a good cup holder.

4) that I put my dining napkins on my tummy instead of my lap, as the food falls onto my blouse on the tummy instead of the lap.

5) the laptop does not fit on my lap anymore...it gets pushed out by the belly.

6) the cats and kitten love sitting/sleeping/perching on me when I sleep on my side as the belly makes my side wider. Most will end up on the side of my belly...like papasan chair.

7) my loafers that I did not wear for 5 months seem to be 1-2 sizes smaller!

Again, some say that I look like I am having twins, the husband also said the same thing (yes, I am bigger than the other lady who is due for delivery in 4 weeks!). But I am enjoying every moment of being pregnant, except for some discomfort I get while sleeping.

We did also receive some bad news about our friend who were about 28 weeks pregnant. The wife lost her baby boy at 28 weeks. Didn't know how it happened, its just fate. So she was at the hospital last week...I am sure it was an induced labor to remove the fetus. It is sad, as they bought the baby crib and clothes a week before this happened. Thats why I do not prepare for the baby until my 8th month of pregnancy due to this. All this is Allah's destine, I won't be certain that I will have this baby until I deliver and bring the baby home.

I shall try to coax myself to take an updated picture of my body 'bouy'. So stay tuned.

As days go by, I know that life will get better
Like I mentioned before, my emotions are like a roller coaster

For now, I have nothing to say except words of comfort for myself
I don't want to talk about what I feel for now, or how to solve my problem
All I want to do is to start over again and heal...
Maybe until school term starts

Till then...



Honesty by Billy Joel

If you search for tenderness
It isn't hard to find
You can have the love you need to live
But if you look for truthfulness
You might just as well be blind
It always seems to be so hard to give

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

I can always find someone
To say they sympathize
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve
But I don't want some pretty face
To tell me pretty lies
All I want is someone to believe

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

I can find a lover
I can find a friend
I can have security
Until the bitter end
Anyone can comfort me
With promises again
I know, I know

When I'm deep inside of me
Don't be too concerned
I won't ask for nothin' while I'm gone
But when I want sincerity
Tell me where else can I turn
Because you're the only one that I depend on

Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you

It is not easy to eliminate and heal the hurt
Sometimes when I feel that I am okay,
It turns out that I am not okay
Alot of things will trigger the hurt.

The neighborhood around me
The school....school term is starting in a week
The situation will not be what it is giong to be
Of what I have always taken for granted for it to be.

A mom will always be a mom
She will never forget
She will still love her 'treasure no matter what
Her treasure will always be in her heart.

Hurt, I am feeling the hurt now...
But I have to be strong,
But...I am human after all...

BIG BIRD Nesting...

I still feel that I need more sleep. The jet lag is gone but I just could not seem to get enough sleep!
Since I got back from Singapore, I felt as if I have so much to do! We need to finish the border of the hardwood floor that we had installed before we went to Singapore, then we need to change the flooring in our humungous room before we start changing the bed and buying baby furniture.

Cleaning frenzy…am I starting to indicate the 'nesting' period already? I want the kitchen and the living room cleaned all the time! Can't stand clutter on the counter, the armoire or even the floor. Each time I see dishes in the sink, I would rinse them and put them in the dishwasher. The husband can't keep up with me cos I seem to have a sensor when there are dishes in the sink…one minute and dishes are in the dishwasher! But my room is still messy. Sorry to say this but it cant be helped as most of the stuff are NOT mine (geddit husband?). We plan to have a bigger bed and put the baby crib in our room. The daughter also said that she wouldn’t mind us putting an extra playard in her room just in case the baby wants to sleep with her (would mostly be the other way around).

Shopping frenzy…not that I have 're adopted' the shopping habit again, but when I came back, like I mentioned in my previous posting, I needed to replenish my makeup. Die die today I had to go during lunch. So I went to Sephora, first time buying my favorite makeup products under one roof at a place without persuasive sales people. I left the place happy, $55 poorer, but knowing that I have 2 more major products to buy still, excluding makeup brushes (wait till next week lah).

Back to how I look now….arrgghh! Some are asking how come I am not 'bloating' as they had expected. Well actually, my tummy has been growing but my face hasn’t. They wanted to see me grow all around, which I am blessed with the that kind of bloating resistance (for now). Some say that my tummy is huge, thinking that I am having twins. All I could say is 'Ohhhh, wait, I have 3 more months to go…hold on to your seats ok'.

Went to Benihana in Japantown last night for teppanyaki (where the chef cooks in front of the griddle for you). Wasn’t our first time there so we were not that excited to see the spatulas flying around and the onions turning into volcano. We just wanted our food! The funniest part was when there were birthdays for the patrons. They had the Japanese drums and sang the happy birthday song in japanese. You see, each time the drums were played, the baby started dancing and kicking! So there were up to 5 birthdays last night and by the time I was ready to go, the drums were going off right across our table…I could not take the shaking in me and we all ended up laughing.

Here's a lame...or the husband would say SUPER LAME song/video from Barry Manilow. I love Barry and there's nothing you can do about it :)

Glad its Wednesday. The sun is melting the fog in the city. Happy Hump Day!

I did miss San Francisco after being away for at least 4 weeks.

The cool weather, the peace in my neighborhood and the half empty malls here. No trampling of people trying to get the same sutff as I do, no one cutting my line when I am lining up for food, and cars here slow down for pedestrians (ahemm, besides the point that pregnant women walk slow).

Please do not get me wrong, I do love my country. But now I remember why I vowed to myself that I shall live far from home when I grow up. Even my favorite cousin says that I have the 'Most likely to stay abroad' tag pasted on my forehead since I was little. He knows me so darn well. And with the crisis that came upon me on my last visit, being away from home helps alot in terms of sanity and recuperation. Noone here to bother me, to say bad things in front of me (at least I wouldn't hear them) or even 'snatch' my precious things from me.

When Uja came to visit and we sat in Union Square itself drinking Diet Soda, it was scattered with tourists but the feeling was very serene, hearing the cable car running every minute and the bells ringing. We could sit there for hours with Uja repeating herself saying that its oh so beautiful here in SF and me kept saying 'Kau tak tinggal sini Uja, suma nampak wangi lah' ('you dont't live here Uja, everything looks beautiful here). But she still could not hide the truth that San Francisco is a beautiful city by itself.

If you dont like the crowd, then take the car and drive 20 more minutes to the cliffs and the beach. Our family's favorite place to sit and rot during the day, provided there's sun to keep us warm. Still bored? Lets go hiking, 10 more minutes of coastal driving and we're there to climb down and the cliff, explore the untouched beaches and then climb back up. (No wonder Ely's so fit eh? Still can climb and walk when shes oh so big now).

Let's snap back to reality. Ely and family has not finished unpacking...no we have not. Why? Cos we're too lazy and tired. Our first week getting back to work was such a joy to the husband and me...as long as we don't touch the luggage. Its Sunday now and what am I doing? We just watched an Alfred Hitchcock movie marathon since last night. The husband went to see a client who's selling his vintage car via eBay ($5k potential earning for us) and the daughter is rotting in front of the TV with pretzel crackers in her hands. No topic of the untouched luggages has been mentioned. In fact, the cats have been making the luggages their temporary bunk!

But I know that I need to update on my makeup...my foundation is almost at its last drip and the compact is sitting to its side container and the makeup brushes look more like used toothbrushes now. So this means that Ely needs to go shopping right? Just yesterday, I went for my haircut. My hairdresser was appalled to see my colored hair with split ends...she managed to cut the ends but still keep most of the length on my head. Looks so much better!

We have also found another halal buffet indian restaurant in San Mateo (15 minutes drive from our place). The food was heaven! Setting of the restaurant was also like heaven, siap dengan langsir and Bollywood dvd. Good place to bring Mak when she comes here in December.

Did I also mention that half of my maternity clothes are very fitting now? Yes, the baby just had growth spurts since I got home and she is kicking her way out of the maternity clothes. Eventhough I just gained 4 lbs from the trip, the baby surely is telling us that she had absorbed most of my food intake. So this means that I need to go get more clothes which I am violently resisting. I have 3 more months to go...I am so NOT going to spend more money on clothes that I am going to wear for a few more weeks. Oh wait! This reminds me that I DID buy a maternity pinafore when I was in Singapore...now i just need to go find it!

Now I feel that I need to sweep and mop the living room and the kitchen. Alah, malaslah...the cats are sleeping on the bed...maybe I should join them!

Things happen for a reason. Allah has His reasons to determine when this person needs to be tested, to make the person stronger? Or even to give inner strength to this person?

To me, every bad thing comes with something good. I have not seen it yet but I am a strong believer of it. That’s how I force myself to stay positive, to maintain the strength in me.

It does get harder when I have another soul in my body. Which means that healing takes longer time. To me, the process of healing is feeling the maximum hurt, cry about it, mourn over it…and then get over it slowly. But I can't allow the experience of maximum hurt due to my condition. And so the hurt gets intense gradually. Each stage of intense came with much tears.

I guess I have reached the maximum hurt and cry and I am coming to terms with it. I feel stronger, more positive and focused on how I am going to deal with this situation. Do you also believe that after the hurt comes anger? Thats seemed to have been happening too.

For now…at this moment, I feel at peace, that I am able to get into deep sleep since a few nights back. Alhamdulillah, may the strength always be with me and my precious family.

To readers out there who are going through healing for your own reason, I feel for you and you're not alone. Stay strong…its all from within you.

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Readers, please do not worry for me. I am OK, I promise. I am getting stronger each day and I have promised myself that I have to think of happy things.

My baby is kicking harder each day. Maybe she wants me to be okay and happy as when I am happy, she is too. It hard when you are half dazed and quite not awake yet and have your tummy working like a tumble dryer!

My rendezvous with Uja? Heh...we get to meet up 3 days in a row, last night being our last supper together (pancakes, hashbrowns and eggs for dinner last night?). Shes flying to Vancouver right this very minute. She also had a day with Mas on Wednesday. Ran the juice out of my girl who was out of energy when I picked her up! But Mas had a great time with Uja. She said that she had never seen anyone as funny as Uja (which Uja said that she is no different from me!). Having Uja and Ajun (yes Ajun, you rock too babe!) here was a Godsend to me, like I had Nazrah when I was in Singapore. Great friends hard to find.

Anyway, here's my favorite song from my favorite band, Cake...my version of 'I will Survive'. You need to turn up the volume a little bit to hear the song.

I have an announcement to make. My daughter has updated her blog for the summer and she is seeking audience to comment on her blog.

Don't forget to visit her HERE.

*okay, ibu's amanah has been fulfilled hehe

Yes, I know that everyone's worried for me and I truly thank you for your concern. At least I know that I am in your hearts.

I told you that I would bounce back soon. I am on the way to emotional recovery, as the days progress, I tend to feel better.

Here's prove to say that I am better...Uja and me, last night, in San Francisco.

Haven't gotten enough of Uja yet, we're meeting again tonight and maybe tomorrow night before she returns to Vancouver.

I have returned to San Francisco.

Firstly, I would like to apologize to my blogger friends in KL and Singapore as I did not have the time to meet up with you guys as planned. I had my reason...

Actually, I came home with a heavy heart. Something beyond my control had happened and I am recuperating from it.

Since this is my journal, I know that I have every right to write whatever's in my heart. Not yet...time will determine my 'luahan' from my heart in this blog.

If you do not see me updating, I might have taken a break. InsyaAlah, I shall return when I am stronger.

ps - its not my baby, she is still going strong.

The 'walking' lady

Whatelse could a pregnant woman do when she's on vacation? Nooooooooo, not so much in eating...but walking! I think my walking habit in SF has been put to good use when I get here as all I have been wanting to do since I got here is walking, walking and more walking. There are some days when I feel that the body has caught on to me...too much walking. Thats when I feel that my tummy starts to hurt when I move, can't balance (walking like a drunkard) and body starts to feel lethargic. But give Ely half a day and she's ready to bounce again!

On Wednesday, I met up with Hartini at Causeway Point. That was hours AFTER meeting up former co workers for lunch and window shoppipng. 3 hours of talking and talking and talking (now I realize that I could talk a lot too!) over laksa, bbq chicken with rice and ice cream at Cavana. There were lots to talk about...lots I tell ya!

Happy kids with ice cream!

Thank you sweet Hartini for the wonderful dinner and time. Such a sweet girl you are, just like how I have known you from your blog :)

Talk about walking. I think I have given myself and some blogger friends a taste of my walking habit. Yesterday. met up with my twin (Makcik Hopes, whoelse...sorry BTB, you can't seprate her from me!), Atenah (YES....cik Tenah kita tuh!) and CK for lunch at Selero Bundo on Kandahar Street.

Ohhhhh, the food was super dee duper good. With a nice typical shophouse atmosphere with aircon (thats very important ok). I had my treat of tapai (how to resist that thing sitting in the fridge staring at me)...as soon as i finished the tapai, my tummy started to heat up!

We then walked to Bugis Junction and sat at Starbucks. Cik Tenah with her high endurance in talking and CK catching on to her with Makcik Hopes and me catching breaths and trying to catch up with the talking marathon.

And how nice of CK and Makcik Hopes to have a baby shower for me. Think pink...pinky stuff and more pinky stuff!

I have been commented for my stamina in walking. Sorry ladies. I just love walking. In this hot weather, it feels soooooooo good to walk!

I have truly enjoyed my day with the ladies and their respective girls. CK is such a wonderful sweet lady with lots of energy bursting with sense of humor, never failing to make me laugh. Cik Tenah with lots of energy in talking, she loves to talk, Nazrah and I were amazed...in a good way. Shes so gentle and wonderful and a very nurturing lady. Nazrah? Alah, must say also? I am addicted to her! Can never get enough of her. We are so alike, so in sync and its having my online best friend in person here!

Thank you so much for your time ladies. InsyaAllah to CK and Cik Tenah, we shall meet again.

ps : Note that only pics of Nazrah and mine are published. CK and Cik Tenah shall remain anonymous (mystery ladies...ahhhh!)

Don't we look good together?

The 'date' I will never forget...

Tah daaaaah...its my turn to update my blog in response to Makcik Hopes' blog (hurry! go read hers! SID_PRESLEY...your name was mentioned!).

As per my previous entry, Thursday was the 1st time I went to see Nazrah Makcik Hopes. As we never get enough of each other, we decided to meet up with on Saturday, this time with no kids but with a tourguide hehehe. Thats our Baby Naz.

It happened that Baby Naz and Makcik Hopes went way back a few years ago, just like me...as much of a pair of confirmed twins and Makcik Hopes and I are. Nazrah and I had tosay together, until Baby Naz popped by out of nowhere, she tercegat kat depan mata aku! It was like seeing a long lost sister.

Maybe I should talk a little bit more about Baby Naz...my precious one. We met online at rantauan.com. There were not more than 20 members then. Sometimes she and I would send postings after postings, on top of Yahoo Messenger and we would chat for hours. That was some 4 years back when she was in Australia, being a student and me, the lonely mom whos kids were back in Singapore. We would chat everyday and about everything. So close we were/are that even the husband knows who she is (on top of my other then Anak ABU chat buddies!). We met for the first time 2 years back and this time again. I could say that with her being with Nazrah and me on Saturday, she truly lit the gathering up cos she grew up in Little India. Tak sesia aku bawak kau Naz!

Meeting up with Anedra was a pleasant surprise. We did NOT expect to see her until she called. Adoi, peluk2 mcm 100 tahun tak jumpa, padahal tak pernah jumpa hehehe. Mammal (Anedra lah) is as loving and sweet as how i have known her online and over the phone. Sigh...such nice 15 mins 'quickie' with her! InsyaAllah, we hope to see you again this Saturday Anedra!

Now I wish my family could relocate back here so that I could be with Nazrah. She has been my best friend off and online. Always checking on me if I was okay everyday. I love you Nazrah...!!!

Since Makcik Hopes' blog says the details of our gathering, here are the pictures to supplement hers.

Aishah, Nazrah and my beloved sister

Rocker chic (my daughter), the son, and my niece (the one with food in her mouth of course!)

No need intro for us lah ok!

Arifah and Aishah

Meanwhile, back home in San Francisco, California, USA

• Believe it or not, the husband is done packing. Something that I will never see myself do!
• The husband had also hired a part time 'housekeeper' to clean our house for $65 so that he wouldn't feel guilty about leaving the house without cleaning, for the sake of our catsitters.
• The husband is also still in denial about missing me. But in actual fact, he ate lamb beryani from our favorite restaurant, Chutney cos he misses me so much! I miss you much much too dearest husband!
• Oh and he has also been talking to my gynaecologist to ask questions about my blood test results and pregnancy. Something that I seldom see a husband do.
  

The update...

The husband asked me why I had not been updating my blog. There are millions of reasons why which I had to condense this entry to just plain basic.

I have been spending all my money on food and cab rides. No, I have gotten NOTHING for myself. No maternity clothes that I like. I didn't want to buy summer sandals as when I get back to SF, fall would be coming already. No baby clothes yet cos I am waiting for the husband to come and we could do it together. Okay, an outfit for Mas, for when she returns to school next month. And okay, some tiny baby towels which are so cute and cheap but will shrink to a size of a quarter when taken out of the drier. Apart from that, nooooooooo...I have bought NADA for myself and I am getting frustrated!

But today, I am going to meet up with my twin...Ms Nazrah Makcik Hope. Our meeting few days ago was too short and I was too tired to enjoy the meeting. So we're going for a 'Rejuvenating Session' at Little India. We're going to string our eyebrows, maybe get some Mehndi Art on our hands and I might get a hair treatment as well. But we then need to complete this process with new makeup yes? I woke up at 3am today cos I am so excited to see her again! Yaay...

Oh yes, to my beloved Nadya, thank you for your gift. Don't worry, I made sure there was no dust when Ms Makcik Hope brought it to me hehe.

Meeting up with my gfs have been fun. But they go to work and can't catch up with my galivanting speed...one of my gf is waiting for the husband to come so that we could double date and do some crazy stuff (with pregnant Ely? okay lah! I think she wants to take us to Clark Quay where the expats are hahaha). Going out with mak, sister and my nieces have been fun too. I am loving the weather now that all I want to do is stay out!

My swellings have gone down. Thank God it attacked me for only 2 days.

There is also a darker note to this visit...which I will only express when I am calm and ready or maybe when I return to SF, where I feel that the environment is safer. Don't worry, my baby's okay. In fact, she can hear her surroundings now and starts doing the flying kick when she hears the mall crowd (are you nervous yet paps?).

Thank you to a couple of my blog friends who have been calling and talking to me with words of valued encouragement which means a lot to me. You guys know who you are. Online friends can truly be real good friends.

Meanwhile, back home in San Francisco, California

• The husband is missing me like crazy. He will start packing today. He is till not admitting that he needs his wife!
  
• My pinky has been missing her mommy but made do with sleeping with paps for the time being.
• 1 Sales representative got fired for violating insurance code of conduct.
• 2 of my closest co workers are leaving the office...one for a better paying job and one to Insurance Claims which will not be in SF.

Heat, food, jet lag, etc...

HEAT...the sweltering heat! Being pregnant, the heat has not been kind to me. My feet and fingers are swelling up since yesterday due to this. I think I have drank tonnes of water to stay hydrated.

FOOD...is still the main attraction to me regardless of the heat. Isn't it amazing when its hot plus spicy food, how it gives the inner kick (including the baby whos appreciating the spice!). I would never miss mak's daily visit to the market...of course, we have to go to the food court first to feed me or she wouldn't get my company to the market the next day hehehe.

JET LAG...still trying to deal with this! I would have to take this mandatory nap at 12pm for 2 hours, and then go to bed at 9pm waking up at 3am looking for food. Well, I don't like to fight this jet lag as laying in bed with the swelling hands, feet and belly is not a comfortable thing to do! At least with the World Cup fever, I wouldn't have to stay up at 3pm by myself.

SHOPPING...can't believe that maternity clothes are expensive! I am not going to pay $39 for a plain ole maternity t shirt when I have 4 different colors of the maternity tops at US$8 each. Well, I don't need more maternity clothes anyway (Ely comforting herself). Baby clothes are still cheaper than back home, so I would have something to shop for!

HUSBAND, I still miss my husband. So kesian, him being home alone with the kitties. Menyampah as much as you want readers, but me love me husband and we can't live too far from each other for too long! Less than 2 weeks to go before I see his sweaty face here!

Thats all I have to say for now. I am running back to the front of the fan...too cool myself!

Yes...I am in Singapore now. A total of 16 hours of flight. It was a good flight, very impressed with SIA, made my journey a little easier.

It has been a very nice visit so far. But deep down I am missing my dearest husband whos all alone back home. This baby kicking in me is a guarantee that he is here with me :). I know, you guys must feel so menyampah when I say this. We have been married for almost 5 years, but we are so close that we're not use to being separated. So I really can't wait to see him here!

Anyway, again, the KL trip is still tentative. Knowing that I have so many relatives, it can be so hard trying to leave town on a weekend to meet my blogger friends in KL. I am still trying....InsyaAllah, kalau ada rezeki kita jumpa ok.

I shall try to get some sleep tonight, its hard when you're jet lagging.

To those of you who can't see the animation pictures at the top, it says,

'Think Pink!'....'Its a girl!'

Geddit!

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UPDATE!!!

Monday, 07/03/06

I guess I was too excited to type a proper blog eh? Well, heres a short one.

Friday, the Dr weighed me in and guess what? I gained 8 freakin' pounds heavier! The Dr said that I have gained a total of 14lbs which is on the high side. Aiyooooo, I know it must have been the pancakes that I have been having every morning!

So the Dr said to me,'Cut the carbs, cut the sugar and fruits. Do not eat for 2, etc etc'...everything was a blur as she went on and on. She knows that when I get to Singapore, my diet will be gone! But I shall try my best to cut down from now on. I have been good...no pancakes for 3 days already. Only one serving of fruits so far and now...I am wondering how to eat Nasi Sambal Goreng w/o the nasi? How?????? But hey, I am not gonna fret. I shall eat 'sparingly' (note the "). And how to say no to pancakes at McD?????

I will have to see the Dr again 3 days after I return from Singapore. Hmmm...I was already showing the guilty face before I left her office hehehe. Alah takperlah, diet next month also can. Makan Nasi Sambal Goreng and Mee Goreng Mamak is a rarity...priceless!

I know, I have not updated this page for your amusement hehe. I have been too busy at work to update especially when I am going to be on vacation next week . New 'flash' projects need to be completed before end of Monday as Tuesday is Independence Day and I will be gone on Wednesday.

In the meantime, have a good long weekend and 4th of July for those who live in the US and will have Monday off (lucky you!). My next entry could be this weekend or even not until I get to Singapore.

To those whom I have intended to connect and meet up, insyaAllah, I shall try my best to contact you. My days are limited (although 30 days sounds like long eh?). KL trip, insyaAllah, you will hear from me online, if I make that trip to KL, I shall connect the 'head of communication' there ok!

Again, Happy Weekend Everyone…me love you ALL!

Life without the neonates...

Have been pretty peaceful, quiet, blissful and godsend (should I be punished for typing the last word?). Its been a week since they left.

The husband put the dining chairs up the table and that will be a permanent fixture until we all come back from Singapore in August. This will enable easy access to dirt and cleaning and also enable us to chase our cats and grab them in case they do not feel like being smothered by their mommy and daddy, hehehe.

Believe it or not, the cats have indeed started to bunk in our room since the kids have not been around to entertain them. I think they got tired of sleeping on the sofa and Mas' bed and the kids never returned. So when we go for our late night 'relief' just be careful of cat land mines. They're everywhere on our floor!

The kitchen counter has been clean all the time since they left. No food on counter (except every too often when paps got lazy and left the dishes on the counter, w/o soaking them and putting them in the dishwasher!) except again…pet paw prints or sand and mud! That’s ok, they're cats, forgiveable.

So we have been eating out since. Each time when we thought of cooking, the husband would say,'Yeah ok, we'll cook for 2 and whos gonna clean up?' so forget it…we eat outside do not have to worry about cleaning up the kitchen when done.

That also justifies our grocery shopping pattern. Only $20 last weekend when we were at the Asian Market. Just the bare essentials like my instant Mi Goreng, tonnes of fruits. No snacks for the kids, no extra milk or cereal for the kids…just 2 bags of groceries…how much easier can we get?

Most importantly…I HOPE THE HUSBAND IS READING THIS!!!
Sex life…eh no…relationship between the husband and I have been very nice. Very intimate, just the 2 of us. Like when before the kids moved here. Just him and me, me and him. We split chores in feeding the cats, mopping the floor and other chores. Mainly, he carries and does the heavy stuff and me the light stuff. I get more attention from him when I whine or when my tummy starts to hurt especially with the growing uterus and weight! I enjoy every moment with him. I know he will miss me for 2 or more weeks when I make my way to Singapore first. He will denifinitely miss me…right paps?

'Si bunting' reporting...

I am getting heavy…does that sound familiar yet? Besides the husband saying so, I surely am feeling heavier. Can't climb up the stairs as fast as I could now….mengah! Some days I feel light but some days like today, I feel heavy!

I have gained 10 lbs so far. Not too bad for someone whos 4 mths preggy. I know this is just the beginning. The husband's co workers wife is 4.5 mths preggy with their first child does not even have her belly as big as mine. But hey, that’s her first baby, her tummy muscles are still strong and firm unlike me, jiggly wiggly and the baby has tonnes of room to grow after the other 2! But I told the husband I am happy that my tummy is big, who cares if I am bigger than someone who's 5 mths preggy, I am preggy and that’s all that matters yeah?

I had to sleep bottomless last night. #1, it was hot! #2, no pajama pants could fit me! The only ones I have that can still fit me, is in the laundry basket. It’s a size M which I bought from Victoria's Secret. Others, nope, can't fit no more. Tried the husband's boxers, nope, not stretchable enough for my movement. The butt still fits but the tummy wouldn’t! So there, bottomless, such liberation like what Nazrah says hehehe.

My appetite is bottomless too, but I only eat 3 meals a day with very little snacks. The thing is, when I start eating, I don’t stop. I think I can complete a 3-4 course lunch with no help needed! And then that’s when after it I would hunt for fruits or sour gummy worms. The baby will start doing somersaults 30 mins after food. Jabbing, jumping, kicking, boxing, whatever it can do it say thank you to me hehehe.

Sleeping is my favorite pastime as we all know. I can take 3 hour naps without feeling guilty. And then still sleep at 8pm. The only problem I have is stuffy nose. Theory says that pregnant women tend to get rhinitis, swollen mucus membrane when they're pregnant which means that there is mucus forming 'down there' too which they say is good? Well, I am having difficulty breathing every night and that’s good? I can't take Sudafed as it is not encouraged to be dependent on drugs when you're pregnant, Saline nose drops don’t work, so the ultimate solution now is nasal strips, which sometimes don’t work if you don’t place them properly on your nose to open up your air passage.

Oh and I tend to realize that my nails, hair and hair (ahemm) grow faster than usual. Thanks to the multiple hormones. So my razor has been busy every morning just so that I could wear my sleeveless tops and dresses to fight the hot weather. Please don’t even think of looking hard at my eyebrows…way too bushy…not going to the salon till next week, before Singapore trip.

20 more minutes to lunchtime. I need my lunch time brisk walk (not that 'brisk' now but still a walk lah) and I need to smell the air outside. Tummy rumbling…still don’t know what to eat.

Ghazal Untuk Rabiah...

I was walking by myself to the bus stop this morning, with the iPod turned on with the song 'Ghazal Untuk Rabiah' by Jamal Abdillah and M Nasir…it touched me. The song did not touch me but it reminds me of someone who was meaningful in my life some 10 years ago. She was my late 'ex' mother in law….well she was not my 'ex' then as she passed away while she was still my mother in law. Mak Som loved this song! So I thought I would like to share this feeling with you all…

Mak Som was a happy 60 year old nenek with about 17 grandkids including mine and 8 children. She married my father in law when she was about 16… when bapak was then a sailor. She was such a baby factory that each time when bapak left her to go to sea, he would come back with a surprise addition to the family. What could he say. Gone for 9 months, missed his wife, came back, boom…product of their lovemaking! The 'misi' (nurse) at that time kept telling Mak to start taking birth control pills when she gave birth to child #6. But nooooooooo….she said 'Camner aku nak makan pill? Laki aku balik setahun sekali…buat aper makan pill? Anak banyak pun banyaklah!'. Until she gave birth to the ex…the last in the brood, the brat in brood (lets not talk further about this).

Then bapak got promoted. Head of sailor to sea captain. Lots of money! At that time, bapak could bring Mak Som everywhere, you name it, Saigon, China, Thailand…all by sea but in the asian continent as Mak Som couldn’t leave her precious kids home by themselves for too long. Bapak made tonnes of money, while Mak Som cared for the kids…no no, let me rephrase this, while she coddled the kids. Mak Som was everything to the 6 boys and 2 girls. Apparently, the 2 girls turned out to be the champions in life (as in tough) and knew how to care for themselves better than the boys. Imagine this, the ex husband had NEVER boiled water until he married me, NEVER cooked rice till he married me (heck! Someone needed to learn somewhere!).

When I mentioned that the 2 girls tend to be tougher in life, I really meant it. They were more independent financially and they didn’t run to Mak Som all the time unlike the boys….who ran to their mom especially for money.

Money….king of all evil. Do you believe that there is a King behind all kings? Well, bapak then made tonnes of money that he literally threw money to the boys when they needed some. Bapak paid for their duit hantaran (means he could afford 6 wives?) and the weddings for all the kids. He was also like a family bank. Everybody swarmed to him for money…easy money.

One day, it was time for bapak to retire. He was about 70 then. CPF was long taken out of his account…about $700k in total…all shared among his ungrateful kids (why lah he shared…sigh!). Bapak then had lost his source of income…no more earning at least $8k per month. Guess what? No money, no honey yeah? No honey, no ants yeah? His kids stopped visiting him. Yes…stopped. All the kids buat hal sendiri.

Bapak sold his apartment long time ago, cos who knows, when he retired, his kids could care for him yes? No! So Mak Som and bapak stayed at their anak perempuans house…taking turns. Sometimes, a few of them would not want to take them in…cos husband and wife working lah, no time lah, itu lah ini lah. When the parents need money…semua orang senyap! The worst part was that, the brothers do not know how to work hard for their money. The way they were being brought up, it was easier to borrow and beg than work harder. One of them even had the cheek to borrow money from my parents!

Anyway…Mak Som and bapak were so sad beyond believe. That their kids turned their backs on them. There was once when Mak Som wanted so much to help this elder son out of debt…Mak Som went to one of the daughter's house to beg for money. She was turned away. The daughters then didn’t want to speak to their mother as they girls thought the mom was giving that son too much face. It was afterall the son's debt…the parents jadi susah kan?

Then the parents moved to the older son's house. Mak Som came to my house every other day to mengadu nasib. Kesian I tengok. She cried saying that now the parents were broke, takder orang sayang dia. I was at that time not that close to Mak Som…cos of all these problems lah. But I was there to layan her, talked to her, gave her some emotional support. I tried speaking to the sisters, to stay by their mom…keras hati pulak the sisters nih.

Mak Som's heart was so bengkak. She fell sick. Apparently she had a blockage in her artery and the Dr recommended for her to go for bypass. Mak Som didn’t want to do it and the brothers said 'Dah orang tua tuh tak nak sudah' what? How can the kids do that? Of course all parents do not want bypass surgery but hello? Anyway, not for me to say. I was just the wife (the EX wife ok) fo the youngest bratty son.

Anyway, so they let Mak Som be in pain. Only one or 2 brothers visited her, the 2 daughters were still mad at her. Then Mak Som's health deteriorated. The ex kept in close touch with her. I advised the 2 daughters to go visit Mak Som cos I had the hunch that she was not going to be around for too long. Mak Som had started to throw up and was in bed for 1 week not being able to breath. The daughters said that they would visit on Saturday….it was Tuesday when I told them. Hmmm…not good.

Mak Som passed away on Thursday, my birthday. When I called one sister, she thought that I was joking. But she scrambled to the older brother's house. Both sisters weeping….regret! Me? It was like I was watching a soap opera…in person. I was just an extra, a bystander.

2 weeks after Mak Som passed, bapak was still sad. Bapak then decided to move from the older brother's house to my house (don’t ask me why). I am the bo chap daughter in law who hated to interfere with their family problems….besides, I was not happy with my own marriage. I was trying to get out of it, but that’s another story.

So anyway, I shall stop my story here as this blog was about my mother in law. The lady who was once so loved by her kids, but not when she was with no money, no wealth to share. She left the world in total sadness…

Ghazal Untuk Rabiah…a song that speaks a thousand words for me. Now you know why this song is so haunted to me.

ps...I think it was a blessing that she passed before my divorce or I might be the ultimate reason for her passing! Deep down, I still say to her 'Maaf Mak Som, kerana tidak dapat meneruskan jodoh ini'.