Never in a million years would I have thought that I would one day move to a country so far away from home for the sake of love. LOVE…nothing but good ole love. No money, no house, no nothing but just pure love. Just one man…and he’s not a magician, not a millionaire either.
When I sit back and look at what I had done the past 4 years, sometimes I shudder and say to myself, ‘Oh my, did I really do that? Why did I decide to come here? Was I really that brave?’
Well, I hope that you are not thinking that love is blind. After my first marriage, heck no, I stopped saying that Love is Blind. Just don't get blinded by love. I think David and I share the common goal in love, he lets me be who I am and love me even for my not so postive points. So that makes us good for each other :)
Not did I just move myself here, but I moved my kids and get this…even my Singapore cat! If I could uproot my apartment to the US, I surely would!
I could not remember that I was so ready to leave Singapore until my friend told me one day, on one of my memorable Singapore visits. When I was going through the nasty divorce 5 years back, I told her that after the divorce, I would like to live so very far away. Away from the eyes of my ex-husband and his relatives. Not to run away from them, but not to deal with them. Their sneers, their gossip and his ignorance and lack of responsibility towards my kids. Kata orang tuh, makan hati berulam jantung? Eh aku nih macam pandai pulak cakap berkias :)
Now that I have lived in a place that I call home, it really would not matter if I would still be living in Singapore, Florida, Africa or San Francisco, as long as my kids and husband are with me, I wouldn’t even care if we lived on the moon.
I do miss my country, my parents, my girlfriends and anything that I could call mine there. But sometimes when we visit Singapore, I would think of San Francisco as back home. As this is where I am now. This is where I gain happiness and this is where I am given the chance to be myself, and giving my kids the chance to show what they really are.
I cannot see myself in future if my kids are going to stay here when they become adults. They can go back to Singapore after they have graduated and I am totally with their ideas should they feel that way. I cannot even see myself if I would choose this place to retire, and spend the rest of my life in a foreign land. Would I want to go back to the good ole Singapore that I love so much? Or should I just live the rest of my happy life here?
Maybe I should not think about it now but live my life the fullest. Enjoy every joyful moment with my husband that I love and the kids that I love more than my own life.
And then again, I would think and say, ‘My, how did I get so brave to move here just because of love?’
15 comments:
Ely, such a touching post! I believe that Tuhan tu dah atur baik-baik our fate in marriage. And for you, he has destined a happy home in SF with yr hubby and kids!
Looking back, its actually a blessing isn't it that all that happened in the past happened?? PLUS, you made a wise decision.
As to where you'll grow old, ie.Singapore, London, Paris or the moon..cross that bridge when you come to it!
In the meantime, live life to the fullest just like you're doing now!
Happy 4th of July ELy!!
Thanks babe. sometimes we tend to cross more bridges than we would have thought eh?
amateur fireworks happening here, cats must come in...!
Hi Ely,
I agree with Anedra & would say, enjoy the moment - that will take you to the future - which to you is PEACE. And this gift is rare. And let life lead you on.
But of course, you gave great insights to married life in a foreign land, with your post and it will be helpful to many.
*love*
Love conquers all eh Ely? :-). Live for today, plan for tomorrow.
Sounds good?
This is so sweet to read. I love reading blogs where I can find so much love, compassion and happiness, even if it is being written by someone thousands of miles away, or by someone who's going through financial hardship with her spouse, etc.
It's ironic actually, because in my world (the real one, that is) - I am surrounded by people who do not think too highly of marriage or the "loving bond" between husbands and wives. The women are always taught to be wary of the men, because quite a few of them have experienced their men abandoning them, whether in terms of marriage, love, family, etc.
When I was just beginning to climb out from the big gaping hole that was created by my surroundings, it's amazing how Allah let me find all the beautiful stories about families, love, sharing and understanding .. in blogs!!
And this is one of them.
Thank you for being one of those wonderful bloggers that continue to remind me that the world CAN be a better place to live in if you have love in your heart and in your arms. :)
susan, yeah i hope to share my feelings who are going through the same thing as me. the hope of being happy but then still thinking of home :)
auntyN, kalau dah gaduh tuh rasa mcm nak cekik2 jugakkan? hehehe
massy, lets play the song'Kita Serupa' by headwind amacam?
hey blabs! thanks for visiting. i used to not think highly of my marriage...in my 1st marriage cos i was not given the chance to eb who i wanted to be and i was under control (now that one i share too). but the divorce was an eye opener to me. to marry and have quality and equal control (as in partnership). being married and away was not easy at first either, no mom and dad to rescue us when we feel down...but trusting urself and the family to keep life afloat and to look on a brighter side. thanks for ur insight blabs!!!
ely, you know you made the right move. whenever I see your pix and david's I couldnt think of a better word - you are so alike ..all those distance and there's your soulmate waiting for you there. Tu lah jodoh kan?
Blabs - meet one of my dearest sisters. I have known her for along time and am veryhappy for her. Yes, isnt it good to read blogs that's positive and full of love?
*blush blush* kak teh, u made malu hehehe.
rupa dah sama, u should see us when we talk. we day the same things same words at the same time! bukan tak gaduh, gaduh jugak (u know better kak teh!), kalau sayang pun tetap sayanglah.
a working marriage is hard work. i get the phobia hearing a marriage not work cos i feel so bad for that person and all i could do is to support them in anyway.
i try to be positive..wait till i publish my next posting!
Good for you, Ely! Bless for such provisions! Seriously no other place where there's more life, liberty and pursuit as much as it is in America. OK lah i'm no pro America...but still...at least you get to be who you want to be there!
bless forever more!
hugs*
p.s. Sweetie..trust me...your kids won't be able to cope living in Singapore...I had to go for couselling after I come back...very american to see a shrink right? hehhhhe
SO bila I boleh jadi anak you, ha?;)
by the way have you tried the What Flavour ice cream are you quiz?
hugs*
nour
nour, u dont have to be pro america to live in america hehehe. i have no comments abt the government here and i am glad that i dont have to vote :)
cottonbed, yeah my kids grew in singapore till they were in P2 & P4. when they moved here, they were so laid back and my daughter was almost bored when she went to school. but the standard caught on to them. they find studie to be harder :)
oh yeah cottonbed, nak jadi anak i? after nour then maybe ur turn lah. we have chores for the kids u know. from mowing the lawn to mopping the kitchen floor everynight!
er...ok..er maybe as host parents hehe...
Ely, that was a very brave thing to do :) I bet at that time, your family back home tried to psycho you out of moving halfway across the world, right? Mine's already trying their best! :D Macam2 lah diorang kata nak try psycho I... nanti rindu ni lah, rindu tu lah, tak boleh ni, tak boleh tu, USA not as good as Singapore lah [yea, sampai gitu pulak]... To me, I believe if I don't try something once, I won't know. Eventually, it's my choice; it's my life to live and experience.
So Ely, I'm glad that you made the wise decision to move :) and that you're happy there! Love conquers all, kan :) and it's worth it!
hartini, arent we all stubborn in making our decisions? thats why i kata fikir balk masa lampau, ish seram jugak, degil jugak aku nih hehehe. i do have a happy life here. but w/o my parents close to me :(
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