"I, Bride, take thee, Groom, to be my wedded husband. to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
The vow was said on our civil wedding ceremony on a fateful day in San Francisco (to legalise the marriage in the US after the nikah in Singapore). Ohhhh, that time, the world was so nice and kind to us. The birds were chirping, everyone was smiling and tears rolled down our cheeks at the end of the ceremony.
Yea yea, that was then, some almost 4 years back. When the honeymoon was about to begin, when the bank and credit card accounts were not merged to both our names and before everything became community property.
During the courting and honeymoon period, when the wife goes shopping and had to carry a shopping bag, the husband would rush and say,’ ‘No dear, let me carry it for you’. And when the couple was on the car, the husband would say ‘Go ahead, pick whichever radio station or cd that you would like to play’.
Hah…some 4 years later, what was that again? That’s when the moon is not as sweet as honey anymore. Love is embedded in the husband and wife and however bad your habits are, you husband/wife would not leave you just cos of a stupid habit of burping in front of your spouse.
Anything can be a substance of argument. From a messy room (the laundry basket is right there dear, why lah you still dump the socks right next to it!) to the food that your spouse cooks on that fateful night. The bed space can also be a cause for a huge rift if not tackled properly. How about those cd’s? The truth has to be told that the husband and wife do not share the same kind of music.
But the good part is that, we still love our spouses no matter how much they have changed physically over the years…more grey hair, more weight or wrinkles on the face. That spouse would still be our intan payung buah hati kan? Dah habit dia macam mana buruk pun, its our other half and we love the spouse like before. Not an ounce lighter.
Well that’s marriage life, for richer, for poorer, for more botak or more weight, till death do we part.
The vow was said on our civil wedding ceremony on a fateful day in San Francisco (to legalise the marriage in the US after the nikah in Singapore). Ohhhh, that time, the world was so nice and kind to us. The birds were chirping, everyone was smiling and tears rolled down our cheeks at the end of the ceremony.
Yea yea, that was then, some almost 4 years back. When the honeymoon was about to begin, when the bank and credit card accounts were not merged to both our names and before everything became community property.
During the courting and honeymoon period, when the wife goes shopping and had to carry a shopping bag, the husband would rush and say,’ ‘No dear, let me carry it for you’. And when the couple was on the car, the husband would say ‘Go ahead, pick whichever radio station or cd that you would like to play’.
Hah…some 4 years later, what was that again? That’s when the moon is not as sweet as honey anymore. Love is embedded in the husband and wife and however bad your habits are, you husband/wife would not leave you just cos of a stupid habit of burping in front of your spouse.
Anything can be a substance of argument. From a messy room (the laundry basket is right there dear, why lah you still dump the socks right next to it!) to the food that your spouse cooks on that fateful night. The bed space can also be a cause for a huge rift if not tackled properly. How about those cd’s? The truth has to be told that the husband and wife do not share the same kind of music.
But the good part is that, we still love our spouses no matter how much they have changed physically over the years…more grey hair, more weight or wrinkles on the face. That spouse would still be our intan payung buah hati kan? Dah habit dia macam mana buruk pun, its our other half and we love the spouse like before. Not an ounce lighter.
Well that’s marriage life, for richer, for poorer, for more botak or more weight, till death do we part.
16 comments:
and sometimes, don't we surprise ourselves, the very things that would normally wake the demons and make you naik loktang and put us off, we learn to live with.
Dayum..
Ely my dear, don't push me into starting my own blog :)
twin, yup, we grunt we nag we nag again. nothing works eh.
sid presley, i am waiting for ur blog my dear!
tapi dalam hati tetap sayang...
it's incredible how we are able to keep falling in love with them every single day huh?
Ya lah Kak Ely, after marriage than the true colours comes out!!!
Like wat u said, " ....no matter how much they have change physically over the years.....that spouse would still be our intan payung...."
CINTA MENJAJAHI SEGALANYA!
huhuuu.. nak kawen gak lar.. =P
*kidding*
u beautiful, beautiful couples out there; stay in love every minute of the day regardless of the cookings and laundries. =P
Day in, day out,
despite the mope,
and the shout,
n him remaining stout,
the morning sun only seems a lil brighter,
the sky seems a lil more blue,
only when there's the significant other,
will i love u forever?
will we always be together?
will i learn the meaning of cherishing u?
till death do us part shall i hold onto?
but,
i know,
you're the best thing that had ever happened,
this feeling shall not dampen,
each time i count my blessings,
i count u twice.
muahahaaa..buruks.. =P
many,many more happy days together sis! *cheers*
and despite all the differences, the farting, barfing etc..etc.. we're still there pretty much happy with how things are. Itulah kot namanya sayang ya?!
yes, "for more botak (him) or more weight (me), till death do us part". Aaaaaamin.
nazrah, yeah. love sucks eh?
anita. yup the spectrum of personalities suma keluar. sometimes u will feel that u kena tipu hehehe, but too late. botak ker, gumuk ker, to me, the eyes of my husband remains the same...oh so beautiful!
lilheaven, hang nak kawin? kalau tgh single tuh, enjoy it first cos after that, u have the other half to consider kan? for me, i have 2 more babies to think of hehehe.
dena, the farting ones always come first. how to handle it? have a can of air freshener ready on ur bedside hehehe.
kalau my husband ever complain abt my weight, siaplah...hahaha.
kak ely,
ur wedding anniversary ke today/yesterday?
:D tak leh nak comment coz blom kawen.. heaahahaaaaaaa.. kena baca je.
nad, anniversary not yet, end of september. this one, just a tribute to marriage jer hehehe.
alah nak comment comment jer. doesnt matter if dah kawin ker belum kan? hehehe
senyuman akak and hubby sama la... muka pun ada iras... :D
ely, i actually drafted one piece somewhat similar to yours last friday. I was so inspired to write about it and was still typing away until past midnight. Then kena ehem ehem with the hubby, he dah tumbuh akar waiting on the bed. So switched off computer and forgot all about it until i read yours! We telephatic ah?
true true i agree with you!
i love you, Ely! I am so happy that you have such happy marriage!
eh ood - boleh tumbuh akar ke? anyway, ely - if this is your wedding anniversary - all my best wishes and love to both of you!!
1na, muka seiras, perangai pun seiras! dua dua kepala batu hehehe.
ailin, u made me laugh, u are so right! its like the theory of
bf - Jalan sama2 pegang tangan
tunang - Dia jalan setapak dahulu
kawin - lantak kau lah kalau kau jatuh sang isteri, dah tau jatuh bangun sendiri!
oody - yes we are telepathic! hopefully the akar that yamtuan tumbuk tuh power sikit beb! i love u too!!! may ur marriage be just as happy babes!
kak teh - belum anniversary lagi lah. that will be a huge posting end of september hehehe.
suwiiittt...if only the other couples whose marriages yg "sudah retak menanti belah" can realise this...we'll have lesser divorce rates....
shesays, not really, i had a broken marriage once tho.
the fact is that, if the marriage works well for u, do ur best, if not, then u might wanna do something abt it like moving on.
marriage is so complicating, it either works for u or doesnt.
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