Note : This is a spouse bashing posting, the author shall not be responsible for any anger or arguments between spouses after reading this post! To the spouse of the author, if you have something to express, again, please submit that in writing.
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Have you ever felt that your spouse can be your worst enemy at certain times? For 4 years that we have been married, I still have not gotten use to the idea that the husband is a back seat driver. *Am I hearing 'ooohs' and 'ahhhs' here?*
I always feel that our marriage would go much smoother if I let the husband drive…just because, theory advised for the wives to let the husbands drive (let them feel the 'power'). I obtained my driver's license close to 3 years ago. Of course, compared to a person who has driven for more than 20 years, 3 years is like a piece of chewing gum stuck to the ground (means nothing lah). But I have gone through 3 years with no accidents (a mere one) and no speeding points.
But mind you, I PAID someone else to teach me how to drive as I gave up on taking driving lessons from the husband. After much barking at each other…one day, I was sooooooo tired of him giving me orders that I stopped the car, put it in 'park' and told him 'You drive then! I give up!'. Does this sound familiar to anyone here?
Here's how a 5 minutes….listen…5 minutes of me driving with the husband sitting next to me sounds like:
A car created a lane and swerved in front of me…I could care less…I don’t believe in tailgating so I don’t wanna stress over whoever cuts me off.
Husband : 'What the heck is he doing?'
Me : 'Let him be, I am not in a hurry.'
When changing lanes.
Husband : 'Well, what are you waiting for? Just GO!!!!!!!'
Ely stuttering, thinking 'eh…how all of a sudden I can't drive'…dalam hati nak jugak keluar kan buku lima kat suami tuh.
Me : 'Well you're making me nervous. Would you please be quiet so that I could drive PROPERLY?'
The conversation did not end there. I went to work fuming with anger and the husband thinking that he was just 'helping'.
I do not understand why some spouses just could not get use to the idea that we are humans too. That we are not 18 year old teenagers who are just learning to drive. According to the insurance theory, new women drivers aged 30 and above are not rated as high as new men drivers of the same age. This is due to lesser loss rates. In a nutshell, women in their 30's ARE NOT high risk drivers!
The husband still thinks that he was 'helping' me. To me, that was the most obnoxious behaviour!
I know, I know, the husband will come back starting the comment with 'you are just reading one side of the story'.
Readers, please don’t get me wrong. I still love my husband with a passion, but sometimes….I just feel that I had a remote control to 'mute' him while I am driving!
So really…am I the only one experiencing this? Don’t you also have a spouse who would pick on just a certain nitty gritty stuff to so call prove a point?
*Imagine Ely bedekak2 cakap dengan matanya yang terbeliak*
I always feel that our marriage would go much smoother if I let the husband drive…just because, theory advised for the wives to let the husbands drive (let them feel the 'power'). I obtained my driver's license close to 3 years ago. Of course, compared to a person who has driven for more than 20 years, 3 years is like a piece of chewing gum stuck to the ground (means nothing lah). But I have gone through 3 years with no accidents (a mere one) and no speeding points.
But mind you, I PAID someone else to teach me how to drive as I gave up on taking driving lessons from the husband. After much barking at each other…one day, I was sooooooo tired of him giving me orders that I stopped the car, put it in 'park' and told him 'You drive then! I give up!'. Does this sound familiar to anyone here?
Here's how a 5 minutes….listen…5 minutes of me driving with the husband sitting next to me sounds like:
A car created a lane and swerved in front of me…I could care less…I don’t believe in tailgating so I don’t wanna stress over whoever cuts me off.
Husband : 'What the heck is he doing?'
Me : 'Let him be, I am not in a hurry.'
When changing lanes.
Husband : 'Well, what are you waiting for? Just GO!!!!!!!'
Ely stuttering, thinking 'eh…how all of a sudden I can't drive'…dalam hati nak jugak keluar kan buku lima kat suami tuh.
Me : 'Well you're making me nervous. Would you please be quiet so that I could drive PROPERLY?'
The conversation did not end there. I went to work fuming with anger and the husband thinking that he was just 'helping'.
I do not understand why some spouses just could not get use to the idea that we are humans too. That we are not 18 year old teenagers who are just learning to drive. According to the insurance theory, new women drivers aged 30 and above are not rated as high as new men drivers of the same age. This is due to lesser loss rates. In a nutshell, women in their 30's ARE NOT high risk drivers!
The husband still thinks that he was 'helping' me. To me, that was the most obnoxious behaviour!
I know, I know, the husband will come back starting the comment with 'you are just reading one side of the story'.
Readers, please don’t get me wrong. I still love my husband with a passion, but sometimes….I just feel that I had a remote control to 'mute' him while I am driving!
So really…am I the only one experiencing this? Don’t you also have a spouse who would pick on just a certain nitty gritty stuff to so call prove a point?
*Imagine Ely bedekak2 cakap dengan matanya yang terbeliak*
17 comments:
Ely,
trying to find words though for commenting..
as for me, my husband taught me how to drive here but I already had a license in Singapore.. he just let me drive in whichever way I want to drive.. even on the wrong side of the road.. luckily, there are no cars on that lane.. that's one memorable thing.. and another is that I nearly hit a signpost.. driving too fast.. which nearly gave him a heart attack..
Afterwards, he took the car keys away for a couple of months I reckon.. then.. when I got my permit.. he taught me again.. dia tak serik-seriklah katakan.. ;)
Theres a saying ........"Sometimes you're the windshield.....sometimes you're the bug!" Does it apply here? Hehe. Spouses make bad teachers. Mr MG tried to teach me tennis....... and I got mad at him! Me: I can't hit the ball with your face like dat!" Him: "Whats my face got to do with it." Me:"You know your face always like dat blah blah blah....." Hahaha. It went something like that lah!
suriyati, i think u are such a calm couple. david and i r very bullish! gaduh mcm budak2 hehehe. i pulak tak suka ditegur, pandang datuk nenek!
MG, hehehe, good thing u didnt 'hentam' ur hubby with that racket hahahaha. i was laughing when i read ur comment. so i am normal after all eh?
You are normal lah mek! Thankfully, I don't have this problem with Mr. D because BOTH of us are pretty gung-ho drivers! :) But I do experience it with my DAD!! I h.a.t.e having him in the car - it can give me a heart attack!! Actually, come to think of it, this must be one of Mr.D's (few, haha) good points - if and when he needs to teach me something, he's extremely patient with me. I'M the one yang tak sabar and will naik suara after a while!
Guess that means that I'M the abnormal one ah? :p
blabs, lucky you! u over ur hubby's voice. for me, my hubby and i dua2 aiyoh loud and becok! both tak sabar! my dad is a very good teacher. when i drive him around, he will sit and when i swear on the road he would go 'Ely...'...yer pak!
Hi hi hi hi I get that alot from my dad...*pheww* driving with him macam drive dengan dictator. Takut!
i cant drive! And hubby cant teach.
amboi kalah pakcik ajar driving keter..ahaks..
amboi kalah pakcik ajar driving keter..ahaks..
oh I get that ALL the time with N. SO I just don't drive when he's with me. Let him be my driver!! He must've been a driving test inspector in a previous life or something!
Same here Anedra, i will let my hubby drive when we are travelling together. Knowing men always want to win, so tak nak gaduh kan, i let him drive.
So kak ely i suggest lain kali if u all are travelling together, let ur hubby drive, u leh jadi maam, kan?
psst psst, i pretend i cannot drive...thing is, i like being driven around. being extremely nervous (following a tragic incident) behind the wheel also earns me the tai-tai reputation(NOT!) of enjoying being chauffered. sitting in the passenger's seat or the backseat won't keep 'em quiet lah twin. i keep a pair of earplugs in the car like i do.
eh salah.cancel "like i do" fr the abovementioned statement
grammar bersepah
frankensteina, dictator...thats the word for the husband when he drives!
ailin, husband cant drive, senang lah u, even is u speed or make the weong u turn, he wouldnt know that much!
kaezrin, pakcik ajar drive keta pun tak mcm dia. pakcik ajar drive r more calm.
oody, u can drive! just dont let hubby teach lah!
dena and anita, actually, i DONT drive when we travel together, unless hes sick! but yesterday, i was test driving a car that hes selling on ebay. how can i not wanna drive this car? its a mustang (not a GTI unfortunately) and the color is yellow canary and 2 door. jadi i wanted to see how powerful it was. tapi ternyata, suami ku punya orders lagi powerful dari kereta tuh!
twin, when david use to work on weekends, i use to drive the kids everywhere for soccer and baseball games and then went shopping and all. but now that hes at home, i got no chance but get driven around instead. but i dont use the honk as much as he does. only that, i tend to swear more on the road than he does!
hai Ely...dah bagus tuh..kalau kena I agaknya husband mana tak pengsan (patutlah susah nak cari pasangan kuah kuah kuah) I did
swerve to the wrong side of the lane a couple of times and best ever, left my wallet, shoes and the car oil knob on the car roof. The best thing is none of these things fell off! hahaha God loves me right?!:D
Hey don't worry about it..my mom said couples who argue a lot tend to have a lasting marriage, insyaallah:) Cakap2 orang jawa-lah
Ely,
My husband "H" (the one in my novel!) always nak duduk kat sebelah aje. Me who had to do a lot of driving most of the time!! The geram part was when it came to manual car..he cannot drive, so there was no excuses for me not to drive. When I was exhausted then I became angry..But I didn't have to mute him because he knew that I m more efficient driver than he is..the other way around would happen..That was my old story!!
nour, hehehe, david has incidents when he left his cell phone on the top of the car. well u know that they didnt survive! lasting marriage? insyaAllah!
AM, oh so H is ur hubby hehehe. errr, psst, i cant drive stick shift either! dont tell anyone!
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