Now that bapak is back in Singapore and the husband has started working normal working hours, the house becomes 'stormy' everyday in the morning and after 6pm. Stormy at home means...daughter's loud singing in the shower, cats screaming at each other, ibu yelling at kids saying 'manage your time guys!!!', son yelling at daughter, daughter yelling at son.
The husband is finally working again, after being on worker's injury for more than a year. This a new job with much much higher salary…on top of the eBay gig that he's currently doing. The painful part is that, he starts work at 6:30am…that’s the busiest time of the day for the whole family, including the kitties.
The first day after bapak left happened to be the first day that the kids started school after a week's break. So everything was topsy turvy. The kids need to feed themselves, feed the cats and then take their showers. Their schoolbags better get packed the night before or they will not hear the end of my nagging. I have to get dressed for work, open my blog (hehehe), feed myself and then give Tuco his daily injections. By the time its 7:15am, if I didn’t have time to eat, the toast would be in my hand, the kids in tow and we're all walking down the hill to catch our buses (I don’t drive to the train station, not paying an extra $4 per day!).
Come 6pm, the husband picks me up from the train station. If he has eBay issues, then I'd be 'it' in the kitchen. Masak aper eh? Got meat can cook. No meat cannot cook…and then we'd end up eating out.
Good thing is, the kids help us with chores and we would make our run to the grocery store for more food at times. Then they have reading too and some homework to consult us with. The cats need love. Most times, I would be watching Dr Phil while chatting with Nazrah or Ayu on my laptop, with a cat on my lap, another cat on each side of me on the bed and sometimes teaching the daughter how to finish her homework at the same time. Homework - I am the math department and the husband, the humanity, science and history department.
I have been neglecting the exercise due to my 'sick episode' and I need to make time for it now. Guilty guilty guilty!
How I wish I had a maid like when I was back home. But then again, like I told my kids…this is a group effort. We need each other to run the house. We even need the cats' cooperation to run the house…as in, they better come into the house by 8pm or we would not be able to lock the doors and windows if they're not in!
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Insight :
My principle in life, family comes first. Redefined : my kids come first on top of everything. So when I get ready for work, I make sure that they're ready first before me. I make sure that they eat first before me.
This rush hour struggle will be a bliss in a week. The walk down the hill has been a bonding session between the kids and me. When I mean bonding, I mean real bonding…we talk like friends and ask each other what we have planned for the day and the weekend. We also tend to share some thoughts which sometimes we never even thought that we would.
It makes an ibu feel good when bonding happens, you know what I mean?
No husband. I did not forget you!
The bond between the husband and wife did not have a good start at first. We were both tired and frustrated with the new schedule and both of us trying to do as much as we could before and after work. Like I told Count Byron in his blog, we always end up venting our frustrations hence, hurting the people closest to us. But we made up after we got over our 'stupidity' mode. Gotta make peace right?
Our family is whole again. Makes us all feel good!
The husband is finally working again, after being on worker's injury for more than a year. This a new job with much much higher salary…on top of the eBay gig that he's currently doing. The painful part is that, he starts work at 6:30am…that’s the busiest time of the day for the whole family, including the kitties.
The first day after bapak left happened to be the first day that the kids started school after a week's break. So everything was topsy turvy. The kids need to feed themselves, feed the cats and then take their showers. Their schoolbags better get packed the night before or they will not hear the end of my nagging. I have to get dressed for work, open my blog (hehehe), feed myself and then give Tuco his daily injections. By the time its 7:15am, if I didn’t have time to eat, the toast would be in my hand, the kids in tow and we're all walking down the hill to catch our buses (I don’t drive to the train station, not paying an extra $4 per day!).
Come 6pm, the husband picks me up from the train station. If he has eBay issues, then I'd be 'it' in the kitchen. Masak aper eh? Got meat can cook. No meat cannot cook…and then we'd end up eating out.
Good thing is, the kids help us with chores and we would make our run to the grocery store for more food at times. Then they have reading too and some homework to consult us with. The cats need love. Most times, I would be watching Dr Phil while chatting with Nazrah or Ayu on my laptop, with a cat on my lap, another cat on each side of me on the bed and sometimes teaching the daughter how to finish her homework at the same time. Homework - I am the math department and the husband, the humanity, science and history department.
I have been neglecting the exercise due to my 'sick episode' and I need to make time for it now. Guilty guilty guilty!
How I wish I had a maid like when I was back home. But then again, like I told my kids…this is a group effort. We need each other to run the house. We even need the cats' cooperation to run the house…as in, they better come into the house by 8pm or we would not be able to lock the doors and windows if they're not in!
==========================
Insight :
My principle in life, family comes first. Redefined : my kids come first on top of everything. So when I get ready for work, I make sure that they're ready first before me. I make sure that they eat first before me.
This rush hour struggle will be a bliss in a week. The walk down the hill has been a bonding session between the kids and me. When I mean bonding, I mean real bonding…we talk like friends and ask each other what we have planned for the day and the weekend. We also tend to share some thoughts which sometimes we never even thought that we would.
It makes an ibu feel good when bonding happens, you know what I mean?
No husband. I did not forget you!
The bond between the husband and wife did not have a good start at first. We were both tired and frustrated with the new schedule and both of us trying to do as much as we could before and after work. Like I told Count Byron in his blog, we always end up venting our frustrations hence, hurting the people closest to us. But we made up after we got over our 'stupidity' mode. Gotta make peace right?
Our family is whole again. Makes us all feel good!
11 comments:
Wow! Your morning rush hour sounds really rushed. You sound like you have a lovely family routine. Isn't the daily walk down the hill exercise enuf? ;)
hey mumsgather! been a long time eh! busy busy busy on the morning, its thursday here and i am so exhausted! eeerrr, daily walk down the hill? not enuf lah!
Ely, the cute part is the cats also have their responsibility as a team.
Very good life priciple!
AM, ooops i mistyped the word principle. hehehehe...corrected it. the cats do play a large part in our family life. right now, i have a cat on my lap and one more on the left side of the bed.
sounds like a big happy family when one knows what one has to do :)
wahh twin, i haven't seen u online lately, esp in "my" afternoons.
i guess i too have reduced my time in bed with the laptop chatting with ppl across the world by running around the house to maintain 10,000 steps per day. i walk outdoors too, by the time i am done, i am pooped n terus masuk tido.
i do miss you. maybe we can set a time to chat eh. i truly have missed our routine.
mama rock, yeah we're always happy. took me 5 days to get my daughter to piss me off this morning. she mad me so mad that i hit the roof... in the morning! then she knew who she was messing with!
twin, i miss u too cayang. i have been so tired after work lately and am hardly online...except when at work. lets catch up this weekend insyaAllah ok.
Wow. You're amazing. The whole family is - right down to the cats!! I don't think I can be even 10% as efficient as you, I'm such a slob, I am. But luckily Mr D's a bigger slob. Heh.
hiya blabby! u will change when u become a mom, somehow or rather, ur multi tasking skill will be put to good use :)
the husband is a bigger slob than me too! so at least i dont feel bad when there's too much garbage on my side of the bed. garbage = sale catalogue.
the husband is a bigger slob than me
Hey! Are you tellin' family secrets again?
husband, would u like me to TELL ALL???
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