Yes, I know that everyone's worried for me and I truly thank you for your concern. At least I know that I am in your hearts.

I told you that I would bounce back soon. I am on the way to emotional recovery, as the days progress, I tend to feel better.

Here's prove to say that I am better...Uja and me, last night, in San Francisco.

Haven't gotten enough of Uja yet, we're meeting again tonight and maybe tomorrow night before she returns to Vancouver.

I have returned to San Francisco.

Firstly, I would like to apologize to my blogger friends in KL and Singapore as I did not have the time to meet up with you guys as planned. I had my reason...

Actually, I came home with a heavy heart. Something beyond my control had happened and I am recuperating from it.

Since this is my journal, I know that I have every right to write whatever's in my heart. Not yet...time will determine my 'luahan' from my heart in this blog.

If you do not see me updating, I might have taken a break. InsyaAlah, I shall return when I am stronger.

ps - its not my baby, she is still going strong.

The 'walking' lady

Whatelse could a pregnant woman do when she's on vacation? Nooooooooo, not so much in eating...but walking! I think my walking habit in SF has been put to good use when I get here as all I have been wanting to do since I got here is walking, walking and more walking. There are some days when I feel that the body has caught on to me...too much walking. Thats when I feel that my tummy starts to hurt when I move, can't balance (walking like a drunkard) and body starts to feel lethargic. But give Ely half a day and she's ready to bounce again!

On Wednesday, I met up with Hartini at Causeway Point. That was hours AFTER meeting up former co workers for lunch and window shoppipng. 3 hours of talking and talking and talking (now I realize that I could talk a lot too!) over laksa, bbq chicken with rice and ice cream at Cavana. There were lots to talk about...lots I tell ya!

Happy kids with ice cream!

Thank you sweet Hartini for the wonderful dinner and time. Such a sweet girl you are, just like how I have known you from your blog :)

Talk about walking. I think I have given myself and some blogger friends a taste of my walking habit. Yesterday. met up with my twin (Makcik Hopes, whoelse...sorry BTB, you can't seprate her from me!), Atenah (YES....cik Tenah kita tuh!) and CK for lunch at Selero Bundo on Kandahar Street.

Ohhhhh, the food was super dee duper good. With a nice typical shophouse atmosphere with aircon (thats very important ok). I had my treat of tapai (how to resist that thing sitting in the fridge staring at me)...as soon as i finished the tapai, my tummy started to heat up!

We then walked to Bugis Junction and sat at Starbucks. Cik Tenah with her high endurance in talking and CK catching on to her with Makcik Hopes and me catching breaths and trying to catch up with the talking marathon.

And how nice of CK and Makcik Hopes to have a baby shower for me. Think pink...pinky stuff and more pinky stuff!

I have been commented for my stamina in walking. Sorry ladies. I just love walking. In this hot weather, it feels soooooooo good to walk!

I have truly enjoyed my day with the ladies and their respective girls. CK is such a wonderful sweet lady with lots of energy bursting with sense of humor, never failing to make me laugh. Cik Tenah with lots of energy in talking, she loves to talk, Nazrah and I were amazed...in a good way. Shes so gentle and wonderful and a very nurturing lady. Nazrah? Alah, must say also? I am addicted to her! Can never get enough of her. We are so alike, so in sync and its having my online best friend in person here!

Thank you so much for your time ladies. InsyaAllah to CK and Cik Tenah, we shall meet again.

ps : Note that only pics of Nazrah and mine are published. CK and Cik Tenah shall remain anonymous (mystery ladies...ahhhh!)

Don't we look good together?

The 'date' I will never forget...

Tah daaaaah...its my turn to update my blog in response to Makcik Hopes' blog (hurry! go read hers! SID_PRESLEY...your name was mentioned!).

As per my previous entry, Thursday was the 1st time I went to see Nazrah Makcik Hopes. As we never get enough of each other, we decided to meet up with on Saturday, this time with no kids but with a tourguide hehehe. Thats our Baby Naz.

It happened that Baby Naz and Makcik Hopes went way back a few years ago, just like me...as much of a pair of confirmed twins and Makcik Hopes and I are. Nazrah and I had tosay together, until Baby Naz popped by out of nowhere, she tercegat kat depan mata aku! It was like seeing a long lost sister.

Maybe I should talk a little bit more about Baby Naz...my precious one. We met online at rantauan.com. There were not more than 20 members then. Sometimes she and I would send postings after postings, on top of Yahoo Messenger and we would chat for hours. That was some 4 years back when she was in Australia, being a student and me, the lonely mom whos kids were back in Singapore. We would chat everyday and about everything. So close we were/are that even the husband knows who she is (on top of my other then Anak ABU chat buddies!). We met for the first time 2 years back and this time again. I could say that with her being with Nazrah and me on Saturday, she truly lit the gathering up cos she grew up in Little India. Tak sesia aku bawak kau Naz!

Meeting up with Anedra was a pleasant surprise. We did NOT expect to see her until she called. Adoi, peluk2 mcm 100 tahun tak jumpa, padahal tak pernah jumpa hehehe. Mammal (Anedra lah) is as loving and sweet as how i have known her online and over the phone. Sigh...such nice 15 mins 'quickie' with her! InsyaAllah, we hope to see you again this Saturday Anedra!

Now I wish my family could relocate back here so that I could be with Nazrah. She has been my best friend off and online. Always checking on me if I was okay everyday. I love you Nazrah...!!!

Since Makcik Hopes' blog says the details of our gathering, here are the pictures to supplement hers.

Aishah, Nazrah and my beloved sister

Rocker chic (my daughter), the son, and my niece (the one with food in her mouth of course!)

No need intro for us lah ok!

Arifah and Aishah

Meanwhile, back home in San Francisco, California, USA

• Believe it or not, the husband is done packing. Something that I will never see myself do!
• The husband had also hired a part time 'housekeeper' to clean our house for $65 so that he wouldn't feel guilty about leaving the house without cleaning, for the sake of our catsitters.
• The husband is also still in denial about missing me. But in actual fact, he ate lamb beryani from our favorite restaurant, Chutney cos he misses me so much! I miss you much much too dearest husband!
• Oh and he has also been talking to my gynaecologist to ask questions about my blood test results and pregnancy. Something that I seldom see a husband do.
  

The update...

The husband asked me why I had not been updating my blog. There are millions of reasons why which I had to condense this entry to just plain basic.

I have been spending all my money on food and cab rides. No, I have gotten NOTHING for myself. No maternity clothes that I like. I didn't want to buy summer sandals as when I get back to SF, fall would be coming already. No baby clothes yet cos I am waiting for the husband to come and we could do it together. Okay, an outfit for Mas, for when she returns to school next month. And okay, some tiny baby towels which are so cute and cheap but will shrink to a size of a quarter when taken out of the drier. Apart from that, nooooooooo...I have bought NADA for myself and I am getting frustrated!

But today, I am going to meet up with my twin...Ms Nazrah Makcik Hope. Our meeting few days ago was too short and I was too tired to enjoy the meeting. So we're going for a 'Rejuvenating Session' at Little India. We're going to string our eyebrows, maybe get some Mehndi Art on our hands and I might get a hair treatment as well. But we then need to complete this process with new makeup yes? I woke up at 3am today cos I am so excited to see her again! Yaay...

Oh yes, to my beloved Nadya, thank you for your gift. Don't worry, I made sure there was no dust when Ms Makcik Hope brought it to me hehe.

Meeting up with my gfs have been fun. But they go to work and can't catch up with my galivanting speed...one of my gf is waiting for the husband to come so that we could double date and do some crazy stuff (with pregnant Ely? okay lah! I think she wants to take us to Clark Quay where the expats are hahaha). Going out with mak, sister and my nieces have been fun too. I am loving the weather now that all I want to do is stay out!

My swellings have gone down. Thank God it attacked me for only 2 days.

There is also a darker note to this visit...which I will only express when I am calm and ready or maybe when I return to SF, where I feel that the environment is safer. Don't worry, my baby's okay. In fact, she can hear her surroundings now and starts doing the flying kick when she hears the mall crowd (are you nervous yet paps?).

Thank you to a couple of my blog friends who have been calling and talking to me with words of valued encouragement which means a lot to me. You guys know who you are. Online friends can truly be real good friends.

Meanwhile, back home in San Francisco, California

• The husband is missing me like crazy. He will start packing today. He is till not admitting that he needs his wife!
  
• My pinky has been missing her mommy but made do with sleeping with paps for the time being.
• 1 Sales representative got fired for violating insurance code of conduct.
• 2 of my closest co workers are leaving the office...one for a better paying job and one to Insurance Claims which will not be in SF.

Heat, food, jet lag, etc...

HEAT...the sweltering heat! Being pregnant, the heat has not been kind to me. My feet and fingers are swelling up since yesterday due to this. I think I have drank tonnes of water to stay hydrated.

FOOD...is still the main attraction to me regardless of the heat. Isn't it amazing when its hot plus spicy food, how it gives the inner kick (including the baby whos appreciating the spice!). I would never miss mak's daily visit to the market...of course, we have to go to the food court first to feed me or she wouldn't get my company to the market the next day hehehe.

JET LAG...still trying to deal with this! I would have to take this mandatory nap at 12pm for 2 hours, and then go to bed at 9pm waking up at 3am looking for food. Well, I don't like to fight this jet lag as laying in bed with the swelling hands, feet and belly is not a comfortable thing to do! At least with the World Cup fever, I wouldn't have to stay up at 3pm by myself.

SHOPPING...can't believe that maternity clothes are expensive! I am not going to pay $39 for a plain ole maternity t shirt when I have 4 different colors of the maternity tops at US$8 each. Well, I don't need more maternity clothes anyway (Ely comforting herself). Baby clothes are still cheaper than back home, so I would have something to shop for!

HUSBAND, I still miss my husband. So kesian, him being home alone with the kitties. Menyampah as much as you want readers, but me love me husband and we can't live too far from each other for too long! Less than 2 weeks to go before I see his sweaty face here!

Thats all I have to say for now. I am running back to the front of the fan...too cool myself!

Yes...I am in Singapore now. A total of 16 hours of flight. It was a good flight, very impressed with SIA, made my journey a little easier.

It has been a very nice visit so far. But deep down I am missing my dearest husband whos all alone back home. This baby kicking in me is a guarantee that he is here with me :). I know, you guys must feel so menyampah when I say this. We have been married for almost 5 years, but we are so close that we're not use to being separated. So I really can't wait to see him here!

Anyway, again, the KL trip is still tentative. Knowing that I have so many relatives, it can be so hard trying to leave town on a weekend to meet my blogger friends in KL. I am still trying....InsyaAllah, kalau ada rezeki kita jumpa ok.

I shall try to get some sleep tonight, its hard when you're jet lagging.

To those of you who can't see the animation pictures at the top, it says,

'Think Pink!'....'Its a girl!'

Geddit!

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UPDATE!!!

Monday, 07/03/06

I guess I was too excited to type a proper blog eh? Well, heres a short one.

Friday, the Dr weighed me in and guess what? I gained 8 freakin' pounds heavier! The Dr said that I have gained a total of 14lbs which is on the high side. Aiyooooo, I know it must have been the pancakes that I have been having every morning!

So the Dr said to me,'Cut the carbs, cut the sugar and fruits. Do not eat for 2, etc etc'...everything was a blur as she went on and on. She knows that when I get to Singapore, my diet will be gone! But I shall try my best to cut down from now on. I have been good...no pancakes for 3 days already. Only one serving of fruits so far and now...I am wondering how to eat Nasi Sambal Goreng w/o the nasi? How?????? But hey, I am not gonna fret. I shall eat 'sparingly' (note the "). And how to say no to pancakes at McD?????

I will have to see the Dr again 3 days after I return from Singapore. Hmmm...I was already showing the guilty face before I left her office hehehe. Alah takperlah, diet next month also can. Makan Nasi Sambal Goreng and Mee Goreng Mamak is a rarity...priceless!

I know, I have not updated this page for your amusement hehe. I have been too busy at work to update especially when I am going to be on vacation next week . New 'flash' projects need to be completed before end of Monday as Tuesday is Independence Day and I will be gone on Wednesday.

In the meantime, have a good long weekend and 4th of July for those who live in the US and will have Monday off (lucky you!). My next entry could be this weekend or even not until I get to Singapore.

To those whom I have intended to connect and meet up, insyaAllah, I shall try my best to contact you. My days are limited (although 30 days sounds like long eh?). KL trip, insyaAllah, you will hear from me online, if I make that trip to KL, I shall connect the 'head of communication' there ok!

Again, Happy Weekend Everyone…me love you ALL!

Life without the neonates...

Have been pretty peaceful, quiet, blissful and godsend (should I be punished for typing the last word?). Its been a week since they left.

The husband put the dining chairs up the table and that will be a permanent fixture until we all come back from Singapore in August. This will enable easy access to dirt and cleaning and also enable us to chase our cats and grab them in case they do not feel like being smothered by their mommy and daddy, hehehe.

Believe it or not, the cats have indeed started to bunk in our room since the kids have not been around to entertain them. I think they got tired of sleeping on the sofa and Mas' bed and the kids never returned. So when we go for our late night 'relief' just be careful of cat land mines. They're everywhere on our floor!

The kitchen counter has been clean all the time since they left. No food on counter (except every too often when paps got lazy and left the dishes on the counter, w/o soaking them and putting them in the dishwasher!) except again…pet paw prints or sand and mud! That’s ok, they're cats, forgiveable.

So we have been eating out since. Each time when we thought of cooking, the husband would say,'Yeah ok, we'll cook for 2 and whos gonna clean up?' so forget it…we eat outside do not have to worry about cleaning up the kitchen when done.

That also justifies our grocery shopping pattern. Only $20 last weekend when we were at the Asian Market. Just the bare essentials like my instant Mi Goreng, tonnes of fruits. No snacks for the kids, no extra milk or cereal for the kids…just 2 bags of groceries…how much easier can we get?

Most importantly…I HOPE THE HUSBAND IS READING THIS!!!
Sex life…eh no…relationship between the husband and I have been very nice. Very intimate, just the 2 of us. Like when before the kids moved here. Just him and me, me and him. We split chores in feeding the cats, mopping the floor and other chores. Mainly, he carries and does the heavy stuff and me the light stuff. I get more attention from him when I whine or when my tummy starts to hurt especially with the growing uterus and weight! I enjoy every moment with him. I know he will miss me for 2 or more weeks when I make my way to Singapore first. He will denifinitely miss me…right paps?

'Si bunting' reporting...

I am getting heavy…does that sound familiar yet? Besides the husband saying so, I surely am feeling heavier. Can't climb up the stairs as fast as I could now….mengah! Some days I feel light but some days like today, I feel heavy!

I have gained 10 lbs so far. Not too bad for someone whos 4 mths preggy. I know this is just the beginning. The husband's co workers wife is 4.5 mths preggy with their first child does not even have her belly as big as mine. But hey, that’s her first baby, her tummy muscles are still strong and firm unlike me, jiggly wiggly and the baby has tonnes of room to grow after the other 2! But I told the husband I am happy that my tummy is big, who cares if I am bigger than someone who's 5 mths preggy, I am preggy and that’s all that matters yeah?

I had to sleep bottomless last night. #1, it was hot! #2, no pajama pants could fit me! The only ones I have that can still fit me, is in the laundry basket. It’s a size M which I bought from Victoria's Secret. Others, nope, can't fit no more. Tried the husband's boxers, nope, not stretchable enough for my movement. The butt still fits but the tummy wouldn’t! So there, bottomless, such liberation like what Nazrah says hehehe.

My appetite is bottomless too, but I only eat 3 meals a day with very little snacks. The thing is, when I start eating, I don’t stop. I think I can complete a 3-4 course lunch with no help needed! And then that’s when after it I would hunt for fruits or sour gummy worms. The baby will start doing somersaults 30 mins after food. Jabbing, jumping, kicking, boxing, whatever it can do it say thank you to me hehehe.

Sleeping is my favorite pastime as we all know. I can take 3 hour naps without feeling guilty. And then still sleep at 8pm. The only problem I have is stuffy nose. Theory says that pregnant women tend to get rhinitis, swollen mucus membrane when they're pregnant which means that there is mucus forming 'down there' too which they say is good? Well, I am having difficulty breathing every night and that’s good? I can't take Sudafed as it is not encouraged to be dependent on drugs when you're pregnant, Saline nose drops don’t work, so the ultimate solution now is nasal strips, which sometimes don’t work if you don’t place them properly on your nose to open up your air passage.

Oh and I tend to realize that my nails, hair and hair (ahemm) grow faster than usual. Thanks to the multiple hormones. So my razor has been busy every morning just so that I could wear my sleeveless tops and dresses to fight the hot weather. Please don’t even think of looking hard at my eyebrows…way too bushy…not going to the salon till next week, before Singapore trip.

20 more minutes to lunchtime. I need my lunch time brisk walk (not that 'brisk' now but still a walk lah) and I need to smell the air outside. Tummy rumbling…still don’t know what to eat.

Ghazal Untuk Rabiah...

I was walking by myself to the bus stop this morning, with the iPod turned on with the song 'Ghazal Untuk Rabiah' by Jamal Abdillah and M Nasir…it touched me. The song did not touch me but it reminds me of someone who was meaningful in my life some 10 years ago. She was my late 'ex' mother in law….well she was not my 'ex' then as she passed away while she was still my mother in law. Mak Som loved this song! So I thought I would like to share this feeling with you all…

Mak Som was a happy 60 year old nenek with about 17 grandkids including mine and 8 children. She married my father in law when she was about 16… when bapak was then a sailor. She was such a baby factory that each time when bapak left her to go to sea, he would come back with a surprise addition to the family. What could he say. Gone for 9 months, missed his wife, came back, boom…product of their lovemaking! The 'misi' (nurse) at that time kept telling Mak to start taking birth control pills when she gave birth to child #6. But nooooooooo….she said 'Camner aku nak makan pill? Laki aku balik setahun sekali…buat aper makan pill? Anak banyak pun banyaklah!'. Until she gave birth to the ex…the last in the brood, the brat in brood (lets not talk further about this).

Then bapak got promoted. Head of sailor to sea captain. Lots of money! At that time, bapak could bring Mak Som everywhere, you name it, Saigon, China, Thailand…all by sea but in the asian continent as Mak Som couldn’t leave her precious kids home by themselves for too long. Bapak made tonnes of money, while Mak Som cared for the kids…no no, let me rephrase this, while she coddled the kids. Mak Som was everything to the 6 boys and 2 girls. Apparently, the 2 girls turned out to be the champions in life (as in tough) and knew how to care for themselves better than the boys. Imagine this, the ex husband had NEVER boiled water until he married me, NEVER cooked rice till he married me (heck! Someone needed to learn somewhere!).

When I mentioned that the 2 girls tend to be tougher in life, I really meant it. They were more independent financially and they didn’t run to Mak Som all the time unlike the boys….who ran to their mom especially for money.

Money….king of all evil. Do you believe that there is a King behind all kings? Well, bapak then made tonnes of money that he literally threw money to the boys when they needed some. Bapak paid for their duit hantaran (means he could afford 6 wives?) and the weddings for all the kids. He was also like a family bank. Everybody swarmed to him for money…easy money.

One day, it was time for bapak to retire. He was about 70 then. CPF was long taken out of his account…about $700k in total…all shared among his ungrateful kids (why lah he shared…sigh!). Bapak then had lost his source of income…no more earning at least $8k per month. Guess what? No money, no honey yeah? No honey, no ants yeah? His kids stopped visiting him. Yes…stopped. All the kids buat hal sendiri.

Bapak sold his apartment long time ago, cos who knows, when he retired, his kids could care for him yes? No! So Mak Som and bapak stayed at their anak perempuans house…taking turns. Sometimes, a few of them would not want to take them in…cos husband and wife working lah, no time lah, itu lah ini lah. When the parents need money…semua orang senyap! The worst part was that, the brothers do not know how to work hard for their money. The way they were being brought up, it was easier to borrow and beg than work harder. One of them even had the cheek to borrow money from my parents!

Anyway…Mak Som and bapak were so sad beyond believe. That their kids turned their backs on them. There was once when Mak Som wanted so much to help this elder son out of debt…Mak Som went to one of the daughter's house to beg for money. She was turned away. The daughters then didn’t want to speak to their mother as they girls thought the mom was giving that son too much face. It was afterall the son's debt…the parents jadi susah kan?

Then the parents moved to the older son's house. Mak Som came to my house every other day to mengadu nasib. Kesian I tengok. She cried saying that now the parents were broke, takder orang sayang dia. I was at that time not that close to Mak Som…cos of all these problems lah. But I was there to layan her, talked to her, gave her some emotional support. I tried speaking to the sisters, to stay by their mom…keras hati pulak the sisters nih.

Mak Som's heart was so bengkak. She fell sick. Apparently she had a blockage in her artery and the Dr recommended for her to go for bypass. Mak Som didn’t want to do it and the brothers said 'Dah orang tua tuh tak nak sudah' what? How can the kids do that? Of course all parents do not want bypass surgery but hello? Anyway, not for me to say. I was just the wife (the EX wife ok) fo the youngest bratty son.

Anyway, so they let Mak Som be in pain. Only one or 2 brothers visited her, the 2 daughters were still mad at her. Then Mak Som's health deteriorated. The ex kept in close touch with her. I advised the 2 daughters to go visit Mak Som cos I had the hunch that she was not going to be around for too long. Mak Som had started to throw up and was in bed for 1 week not being able to breath. The daughters said that they would visit on Saturday….it was Tuesday when I told them. Hmmm…not good.

Mak Som passed away on Thursday, my birthday. When I called one sister, she thought that I was joking. But she scrambled to the older brother's house. Both sisters weeping….regret! Me? It was like I was watching a soap opera…in person. I was just an extra, a bystander.

2 weeks after Mak Som passed, bapak was still sad. Bapak then decided to move from the older brother's house to my house (don’t ask me why). I am the bo chap daughter in law who hated to interfere with their family problems….besides, I was not happy with my own marriage. I was trying to get out of it, but that’s another story.

So anyway, I shall stop my story here as this blog was about my mother in law. The lady who was once so loved by her kids, but not when she was with no money, no wealth to share. She left the world in total sadness…

Ghazal Untuk Rabiah…a song that speaks a thousand words for me. Now you know why this song is so haunted to me.

ps...I think it was a blessing that she passed before my divorce or I might be the ultimate reason for her passing! Deep down, I still say to her 'Maaf Mak Som, kerana tidak dapat meneruskan jodoh ini'.

Just paps, cats and me...

I just got back from the airport. Singapore Airlines, the plane which the kids have boarded, will take off in 10 minutes.

At first I was happy for them that they're leaving, first day of their summer vacation and they're in a REAL BIG vacation. Then I walked back to the car...all by myself. Senyap pulak, noone to yell at, noone calling me Ibu every 10 seconds. The 10 minute ride back was the quietest and kinda sad for me. My babies are flying 8,000 miles away. My babies....they still will be my babies no matter how old they will get.

I got home, Tuco the fat cat, meowed at me. I think he could sense that the kids were leaving this morning. He followed the kids all the way to the car and started meowing. Now that I walked into the house by myself, he followed me into the bedroom, purring and meowing. Maybe he understood that his Ibu is feeling the same way as him...house too quiet.

Mas told me to keep updating my blog cos she would want to read about me everyday. The boy? Dah lah, dia tuh...tak boleh pakai. All he said was a fake 'I will miss you mommy', nak lempang ada, nak ketawa pun ada.

Sigh...my babies. I will see them in 2 weeks. Good break for me, but I will still miss them lots.

Dear paps...

Its been almost 5 years since you became a stepfather,
Something which you would have never thought of before you met me...

But you have been such a good stepfather to my kids,
The courage and happy spirits you have to share within the family,
They're all nothing but good...

The kids may not know how to show proper appreciation for your tender loving care for them,
But you know that they love you so...

You have been such a wonderful paps to the kids,
You have been such a wonderful husband to me,
And you know that you will be a great father to our little munchkin...

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY PAPS!!!
And many more good years to come...

Love...Ibu

Picture speaks louder...

at almost 16 weeks

than words. As per Nazrah's request...taken 10 minutes ago, after a halal thai restaurant binge dinner. Looking tired, big but happy :)

I was standing in front of my Barry Manilow beach towel by the way...hehe!

HAPPY WEEKEND!!!

Telur ikan & hati ibu...

Aaaaahhhhhh, finally satisfied my craving for telur ikan!!!! It was so hard when you're craving. Went to chinatown, no trace of telur ikan. Good thing, a cousin was coming here with his family for vacation again and he brought me 6 large pieces of telur ikan, siap dah masak suma!

So as soon as he touched down and checked into the hotel, the husband and I went to meet her at the hotel. Aiyooooooooooo, so happy to see the cousin and his family. We could talk forever I tell ya! Cos this cousin of mine is one of the closest to my family.

After the hotel visit, I couldn’t resist the wait and scarfed a big piece of telur ikan in the car. The husband, who does not favor stinky stuff just could not say anything to a craving woman except making me promise to never bring the telur ikan into the bedroom. Oh hey, I wasn’t listening when he said that.

The cousins are going to Lake Tahoe today and shall return to the city for 2 days before heading to LA. This is not their 1st trip here and they're pretty road savvy when it comes to travelling. Tomorrow night, we're going to have a big dinner at our favorite indian restaurant, yay!

Hmmm…serious talk now.

The kids are flying to Singapore on Monday. The daughter is nervous about flying without her parents. Eventhough the brother says,'Well, your BIG brother will be here with you!'…like that’s going to make her feel better...

Another reason why she is nervous is cos of her father. She has been pretty 'hard hearted' with her father for many reasons. It is a pretty sore subject to her where her father's concern. But last night, bapak called and told me the latest news about their father. That hes living with a divorcee (God knows if he married the woman cos the last time bapak asked he was not married to her) with 3 kids. As you know, my network of family is HUGE…a cousin said that she saw my ex with 2 kids and a boy called him 'ayah'.

Anyway, bapak is concern about the kids visiting their father due to his marital situation. He does not want the kids to be confused. As you know, this ex matter is also my sore subject. So I told him that I would discuss this matter with the husband who is more experienced in this.

The husband, being american and seeing that cohabitation is not an issue here says that we should tell the kids on whats happening to their father before bapak says it and makes it sound negative. Well…that kinda made sense to me.

Long talk…the truth was said, the son was happy that his father found another. Who cares if hes married cos son says that that’s not his business. But he will be happy to meet their father. The little lady on the other hand was crying when she heard the news. Not cos her father has found a woman but the hurt….the hurt that she has been feeling from the divorce never left her.

Again, this is a sore subject to me. I could not say a word when she was bawling. I had to signal the husband indicating that she was uncontrollable. So there the husband again, comforted her and put some senses in her. All she said to us was,'WHY do I have to go see him? Where was he when I was 7? Where was he when he promised to see us every weekend when we were there? He also did not give us child support!'. As you know, I get emotional when this happens.

This morning, I asked the daughter how she was feeling. She said,'I don’t know, still sore but a little better'. I tried to talk to some senses into her telling her that she should see her father just to keep in touch and it is good for her father to have found another woman. Then she said,'You know that I love you the most and noone can replace you right?' Now wasn’t that sweet? And I said,'I know, and I will always love you too. But I will feel so happy if your father's girlfriend loves you too. More people to love you!'. We left the conversation as that.

So now our main project before the kids leave for Singapore is to try change the daughter's adamant mind about not seeing her father. But if it fails, then she had been told that noone will ever force her to see her father. When paps goes to Singapore, paps could take her to see her father.

My kids are so precious to me. Yes, I admit that I do get very possessive with them especially when it comes to their father. But I cant deny that they have a father and they deserve to get to know their father instead of growing up with ill feelings toward him ('the ex being always a jerk' aside).

The last visit, I was not allowed to meet the ex in person as the husband says that I would have a shouting match with him (from experience). But maybe my attitude would change this time. Maybe I will get to see the woman who is making him happy…not to judge, but at least to feel relief that the ex is finally picking up his pieces, which I had done more than 5 years back. Maybe this time, the visit will also be an eye opener for me, who knows.

Hormonal Neonates

Kids with bapak in March this year

How do you deal with kids of whom are turning 14 in a few months time and another whos 12, whose hormones are everywhere, uncontrolled and could I say 'out of whack'? Sounds like me, the pregnant mommy? Heh…it gets harder when you're pregnant with raging hormones while raising kids who are just going through the same hormonal issues like you!

Oh how much I love my kids but sometimes, I wish I had the energy to jump up and down like them, not pregnant to play catch rugby ball with them at the beach, and run for the bus every morning instead of missing it (they run for the bus for me and tell the driver to wait for their pregnant mom to come…in a few seconds!).

With one whos 13, going on 14 in just a few months, this boy is a raging teenager. A good boy as the husband and I always try to convince ourselves but can a teenage parent reader here please support my statement that teenage boys do not think full time? They do what they think is cool and get into trouble with parents over something that they thought they would not get caught on, forgetting that at least one of their parents were born and grew up in the US and knows the 'bull cr*p' of teenagers? Heh…we sometimes tell the son that he has to be a little smarter to outwit their parents.

But the good side of this dearest son of mine is that, he is very considerate to his mom. Lets mom walk in front of him, opens door and carries bag for his mom and also offers drinks for his mom (if he doesn’t forget!). My 'showoff' munchkin!

Now, what should I say about the other girl who is still 12? She gets raging hormoes during PMS time. Her brother's her closest victim followed by her mom (poor old me). Of course, I do not keep track of her period dates. We let her be wicked, give her warnings until we're at the end of our thread and threaten to punish her when the next day she says,'Ibu, my period came this morning'. So that explains it! But how long do we have to deal with this monthly hormone rage? Till she moves out I guess! We also have been asking her too many times if shes having voice tone or hearing problems cos she speaks at high decibals when she communicates with a member of the family. It was as if, her brother was at the backyard but in fact, right next to her when she 'yells' and not speak, to him. Again we tell her,'Act like a young lady not like a street walker!'

The good side of her is that, she tucks me in when I am not feeling well, shares her feelings with me when shes in dilemma and does care for everyone in the house including the cats. My little love ball!

I know that I will not have issues when I have the little munchkin at the end of the year. Help will be in hand when I need it and I am sure the little munchkin will get lots of love from his/her bigger siblings.

I am grateful to Allah for my kids and the little one coming.

As for the husband (you must be wondering why you're not mentioned in this entry). Hang on, Father's Day is just around the corner…be patient, you know I love you!

Do I have to give you a hint that you have offended me?
Why do I have to let you know that you have done so?
If you are a friend, don’t you need to know this?

Here's one thing about me, I am a giver ,
But sometimes I am a taker too, especially from friends
I do not expect the highest mountain in the world,
Nor do I expect a bag of gold…

All I need is gratitude
I am tired of being treated as a doormat
All I did for you was give, give and give
But in the end, I get nothing out of it…it was like I never helped

It is more than just being a friend,
More than just sharing happiness,
But remember, your friends are not doormats!
They are here when you need help,
But they can also run away when they feel like they have run out of favors for you,
We are also not 'courts in waiting'

Try asking yourself why your friends are doing this to you,
Is it cos of YOU?
Or is it cos your friends?

Think about it…if you still don’t get it,
Then THINK HARDER!!!

Here comes the Sun...

Ahhh its Friday….bright and sunny Friday! There will be no softball or baseball game tonight and no cats or kids to run to the vet and the field. This evening will be a quiet early Friday (finally!).

Just wanted to share my joy about my beloved son. Yesterday was a good day for him. His school team that he's in won the inter school softball league championship. He also brought back his Poetry Award that he won last month within the school district. His poetry was selected and posted at the Daly City (that’s our city) library. That’s my boy!!!

Saturday will be a busy busy busy day for us. Starts with the daughter and her Eye Dr appointment, followed by the son's baseball game and then pick the cat up to go to the ophthalmologist (he has a growth in his eye). So much to do with so little time.

Happy Weekend!

So the 'glutton monster' has gone back to its cave. Now that I am in my 2nd trimester, my morning sickness has almost (but not fully) recovered. I do not have to eat ramen everyday for breakfast anymore and I am starting to eat whole wheat toast with melted cheese for breakfast and nasi with kicap and sambal tumis with anchovies and fried peanuts….yummy! The more basic the better! Good thing, I am still not craving for anything sweet like cookies or ice cream (the taste of sweet makes me yak!). But I do love them fruits…the more sour the bettah!

Let's see whats in my 'care package' ('tah pao' Harrod's bag) today :
2 tiny red apples
1 low fat yogurt
1 slice of Texas cookie (just in case)
Oh and don’t forget Tums for that gasey feeling!

My energy is starting to come back too. I am a happier person now (with occasional hormone bursts at times…shuddup husband!) and have more energy to last till 10 pm.

I can already feel the baby moving (as per my 2 previous entries). The baby loves food! So 30 minutes after every meal, it starts to do acrobats. It also wakes up when I wake up! Such a wonderful feeling.

Today will be the Dr's appointment. We will hear the heartbeat and if we're lucky, another ultrasound! The kids are anxious to know the sex of the baby which is still too early, but we'll never know!

I told the co workers that I am starting to take wagers for the sex of the baby hehehehe.

In the meantime…
The City Hall of San Francisco (which has our cute mayor working there) has been closed since 7:30am today due to 3 suspicious packages (a bomb threat). Our office is only 1.5 blocks away from City Hall. Our Disaster Response Team (I am one of the member) says that this will not effect our daily operation…dang…wish we could all evacuate and go picnic in the sun! Anyway, I am sure the scare is just a scare…especially since 9/11, anything is a scare!

Have a great week ahead people!

To my dearest friend...

My friend whom I have known for over a year but seems like forever,
You have always been here for me,
Never running out of ideas and ways to make me happy,
I think we have been destined to be friends...

I wanted you to know that you have been such a good friend to me,
A friend whom I will keep for the rest of my life,
I love every bit of you,
Every sound of you...your voice is like the ripples of the ocean, peaceful and melodious...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY DEAREST KARMAALMITRA aka Nazrah
My greatest friend on earth...

I LOVE YOU!!!

**thank you to KT for 'matchmaking' us. you know that we love you KT!!!**

GO GIANTS!!!

This weekend is the long Memorial Weekend. Mat was invited to be honored as a Junior Giant at the San Francisco Giants' Game today. He and other Junior Giants were given the chance to be on the field and meet up with a player in person. Being that, of course, the family was invited.

It was a very hot and beautiful day. Barry Bonds hit his home run #715, over-writing Babe Ruth who hit 714 home runs. It was a very weird conincident...we were at the game when Bonds hit #700 last year and here we were again at #715. Read article here.

Here are the pictures of the game....and me, a day short of 13 weeks.

Click on the pic to see Mat (he's the short one in front of player#17)

Lalalalala....

I wanted to say thank you for your kind comments in my previous entry.

I think this week has not been going pretty well. Besides having the 'evening' sickness visit me after 4 weeks of not visiting, past 2 days had not been that smooth sailing for me.

Support : that’s one emotional element that I had been giving support…to my 2 co workers.

For the closer co worker whos on bed rest and had lost one of her set of twins, I have been calling her every morning to make sure that shes ok. She seems to be getting better and better each day. Being on bed rest is not a fun thing to do. All she could do is watch tv, read a magazine and whenever she gets up to make breakfast or anything else, she would feel guilty and jumps back in bed. This is for the sake of the other baby that’s still in her. All I said to her is to relax. And when she comes back to work on Tuesday, she needs to be ready and hopefully her sadness would somewhat be kept far behind her head as she has another baby in her to grow and be happy. If she were to be sad and mope overt her loss, then she will distress herself and the baby might be at risk.

As for the other one…the first time mom. She called me at work from the off site class yesterday. Hmmm…she is not believing what the Dr said. She had an ultrasound on Monday…the baby grew a lil but there was no heartbeat. My co worker says that she is not believing it yet till she sees the blood test result and see another gynaecologist. Although the Dr says that it will be a waste of time, I suppose that my co worker has the right to do it. But I told her one thing,'Remember, things might not go your way after all this. It is not the end of the world. You're still young and you can try again. It is just not meant to be and you know that we all here will be here to support you'. Now…would that make a person bawl? She did. It is hard sometimes being a friend. We share the happiness and sadness in life, but the fact of life still needs to be advise upon should things don’t go their way. A friend can't just keep consoling but a friend also need to give a factual theory of life yes?

This is me. My friends can find me anytime they want…a friend who is ready to give advise and support…provided that they do the same when I need them.

On a lighter note : The evening sickness kinda came and went. I cannot wear my pre pregnancy pants…can't button, can't hook, can't zip the pants! So I am wearing my maternity clothes and other bigger tops that could sustain the growth of the munchkin. Oh and I have been getting maternity 'hand me downs' from a co worker's wife….phew! At least I wouldn’t have to spend anymore money on clothes that I am going to wear for 6 more months! This morning, the munchkin is fighting for space in the tummy. The slight cramps on the side of the tummy had thrown me off guard sometimes. But I know theres going to be more to come.

The 'unexpected' day...

Monday had not been a good day. Remember I mentioned in the previous entry about my office having 3 of us being pregnant? Well Monday was like a day of 'takdir'(fate).

Firstly, my new co worker, the first time mom and being 10 weeks pregnant lost her baby. She was in an offsite class but had made the 2nd appointment to see the gynae as the gynae suspected that there was something 'not good' when she saw the ultrasound and blood tests on Saturday. 2 hours later, she called the office, bawling beyond control, saying that she had lost the baby.

Then my closer co worker, she was expecting twins...lost one of the babies on the same day. She is currently 13 weeks pregnant.

The one who was a first time mom is back on offsite class and will see the Dr again on Friday. I won't see her till 5 weeks later as the class is a long one. She is still upset...but I choose not to call her till Thursday, to give her space to compose herself.

As for my closer co worker, she is on bedrest. She sounded upset this morning. But all I could do was to give her strong encouragement and support, which she really needs now. I shall call her again tomorrow and every morning to see if she is OK. We promised each other that we shall go through this together (we planned/coordinated our pregnancies, again, takdir for us to get pregnant at the same time).

Yes, of course I am worried for myself and the baby. I am in my 12th week of pregnancy and theoretically, the risk of miscarriage had been reduced by a significant percentage. But the point is that, Allah is great. Things can happen and cannot happen according to his wants. Anything can change in a minute or two.

Redha...thats all I can say.

To my 2 co workers...my prayers are with you and your angels in heaven.

Possessed...

Hmmm…where should I start? OK OK...I turned into a possessed pregnant wife over the weekend. I was overly 'possessed' that I get overly mad with the husband and get overly teary eyed. No Bollywood movie could match this drama. No Bollywood or Jalan Ampas movie star could match my drama mama (the actresses do not have raging hormones to be drama mama like me!).

I felt that I had a bomoh siam (the husband was the bomoh) to take the demon out of my body. But I was rewarded with Banana and Coconut Blended Crème from Starbucks at the end of the day.

But please do not be worried, I am ok now. Very tired, still teary eyed at times for no rhyme or reason. Its beautiful outside which is a big help to my emotions.

Sigh…I wonder what will possess me next…maybe a food machine!

Its the WEEKEND!!!

The husband will not be home tonight. He has gone to Las Vegas for a business convention. We were thinking that I could come along for the weekend and watch Barry Manilow (yes BARRYYYYYYYYYYYY!) singing at the very hotel that he's staying. But it will deem unfeasible if I were to go cos 1) the kids will have to spend their night at their respective friends houses 2) Matt would have to come home 2x a day to feed the kitties 3) a gf would have to come by the house 2x a day to give Tuco the diabetic cat, insulin. So…forget it, ibu stays home to keep the house together.

The kids are already asking what we're doing for dinner tonight. Knowing them, when Paps is not around, they always want to drag me to the mall no matter how tired or what time it would be. I told them,'Let's just order pizza and sit in front of the tv and watch a movie!'. Both of them went 'Urrrrgghhhhh!!!!'. But we will have an early day tomorrow, sending Matt to the dugout for his baseball practice at 8:30am and then the game at 9:30…that would still be ibu's sleeping time on weekends!

The mall….forget the mall….ok trying to forget the mall. After paying the American Express more than $3.2k on airline tickets and miscellenious today, I need to avoid the mall. But how to forget the mall then I need more maternity clothes?

But my Saturday would not be over until I pick the husband from the airport late tomorrow. I wonder what I would be cooking for him…or maybe not.

HAPPY WEEKEND YA ALL!!!

The pump, the bump and the 'hummpph'...

'Hey, would you like to buy a breast pump machine from me? Its top of the line brand and my wife used it only a few times', a male co worker asked.

'Oh yea? You might want to bring the pump with you here and give me a demo!'…of course that was me talking.

That was my co worker who was trying to sell me his baby stuff. Yes the pump is indeed a top of the line brand. He bought it for $350. So we came up with a price…$150. Good deal to me! Then I messaged the husband about having 'bought' a breast pump for $150 and he asked,'Does this one make milk shake too?'.

Last year was also a baby booming year in my office. But they were all husbands expecting their babies….all boys! So this year, 3 ladies are pregnant in my office. One is a first time mom, one a second time mom who still has her preggy clothes and baby stuff and the other one (that’s me!) a third time long lost mother who owns only 5 pieces of maternity clothes when this entry was written!

Since I am closer to the crowd in this office (how to not get close when I nag them everyday?) I seem to be getting more offers from these people trying to sell me stuff. Knowing them having good high taste, I trust the products they buy. I am also getting food and 'gagging' offers (they start to gag when they see me looking sick just to tease me). I hope that one of the offer would be a Baby Hummer or a Toyota Mini Van hahahaha.

I almost went on a cruise to Vancouver that 6 of the ladies in the office went last week. But I backed out a minute before they booked the cruise as I knew that I would be more of a trouble than fun for them. Gotta take care of Ely…what if she gets sick? But one of the ladies said,'That’s ok that you're not coming with us, you'll be sleeping the cruise away if you came with us! Frances (the other preggy co worker who is always tired too) is already with us, don’t want double trouble!'. Great!

Did I fail to mention that I am still in 'denial' of trying to squeeze into my normal work clothes eventhough I am bursting out of my pants, the knitted blouses riding up my tummy and the teeny sweater just wouldn’t button up around the waist? Besides waking up one morning feeling as though someone put huge stones in my tummy (like the wofe story remember?) and feeling tired, this clothes issue is something that I really dread.

I have collected 5 tops and one (yes one!) maternity pants so far. The pictures in the previous blog, was the first one that I bought and no I haven't worn it to work yet. I was thinking of waiting till next weel when I hit the 12th week to start wearing maternity clothes. So I guess Ely has to hussle and go shopping again…which I really really dread!

As the uterus gets bigger, the cramps come and go intermittently. Same goes with my energy and mood. One minute I am hyper and another, I feel drained. One minute I am happy and another, I get moody. The husband sometimes just could not grasp the concept of being pregnant. He always thinks that I am mad at him for some reason and would throw tantrums before I could tell him that I do not feel well. He told me yesterday,'Next time when you're not feeling well, please let me know'…Hello???? Maybe I should have a mood or pain sensor on my head yeah? I cannot explain it myself when this will happen. But what can I say. I cant help others if I can't even figure myself out?

I guess I also forget to tell you that the gynae says that this baby will definitely be born at more than 8lbs cos according to my babies' birth weights, my 1st one was born at 6.2lbs, the 2nd at 7.9lbs and this one, at least another pound more. Yeaaahhhh....it surely wasn't funny when she told me that eh? And I am still NOT laughing!

Tickets to Singapore have been bought. The kids are flying in a month and me, in 6 weeks. The husband is already weeping, that he will miss us a bunch, which means that he will buy his ticket soon to join us (we only bought 3 tickets cos he thought he wasn’t going, yeah right!).

I am making a list on food…what to eat while I am there!

It's still Mother's Day here in the US....fragments of it left. Those who have not brought their moms out, this is the only chance to take them out to dinner.

When the kids asked me what I would love for Mother's Day, I said 'Peace and Quiet'...of course, that was just a wish waiting to come true. It was a beautiful morning and we went straight to Chinatown for the boys to get their haircuts and for me to find my Fish Head to make Fish Head Curry and maybe look look for 'telur ikan'. Yes to Fish Head but no to telur ikan (hard to find). Oh well.






Then we went to Fort Point to enjoy the beautiful sun and weather. Did some walking and climbing of stairs till we got hungry and then straight to Chutney for my favorite indian lunch. Hmmm...sedap!

To the mall we went as I needed to buy some maternity clothes. The kids did their shopping, Paps and the kids gave me a very nice Piglet stuffed toy, Mrs Fields cookies that says 'Happy Mother's Day' and a box of See's Hard Candies. Hehehehe...makes me happy!

But life's back as usual when we got home, cat napped, more laundry and made some jemput2 pisang.

Its 7:02pm now, hot hot hot...lil bit of laundry left, the kids just got nagged at for vegetating in front of the tv doing nothing, so now they're scrambling to clean their respective rooms.

One more hour before I say hello to the bed again and goodbye to the wonderful weekend.

And I hope that its still not too late for me to say HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all mothers out there....we're ALL SPECIAL!!!

Ely is feeling very tired yesterday, today and maybe in days to come.

Please be patient with me. I do not have the energy to update the blog regularly for now.

The son's baseball practices and games have been overly taxing for me and the little munchkin in my belly.

I'll try to update as soon as I gain my energy back.

The Second Appt...

Can you see the skeletal 'face' at the top?

May 3rd was my 2nd gynae appointment, 1st time for the husband.

The baby has apparently grown...by 1.2cm. It was amazing when we saw the real tiny one sitting comfortably at the corner of my uterus, moving every now and then, with the heart beating so fast! As the heart was beating, seemed like the heart jumped out of its body, making it a 3D heartbeat. So the husband and I went 'woooooowwwwww....'. The size of my uterus is now of a small cantaloupe or a huge grapefruit.

So far so good...gynae says that I am doing ay-okay. She says that I am sick for a reason, my weight gain is for a reason too (yes, I gained another 5 lbs! Eeeeek) and she will see me in 4 weeks.

Heh...the tummy with the 'grapefruit'...yes...I feel bloated!

Oh please don't mind the water mark on the t shirt, just had dinner :)

The Birthday Wish...

The day has come again
38 years ago when you were born
Cute little baby you were
Still as cute today :)

Happy Birthday my dearest Husband and Paps
May Allah bless you with more good, healthy and wealthy years to come!

Your family loves you!

Don't this, don't that...

I am counting on the weeks that I will be into the 2nd trimester. Counting…counting…counting…its like counting sheep…makes me fall asleep (I fall asleep all the time anyway!).

As we all know, when you start getting pregnant, the superstitions start coming out. My chinese friends seem to observe what I am eating. They said no pineapples, not too much bananas, no watermelon, no this, no that. Then the non chinese, would say, no soda, no chips its bad for you, no this no that. But but but, Ely had some pineapples during the potluck last Friday, and Ely had some bananas too…though not often. Then the husband bought a huge a*s watermelon. The soda makes me burp, gets rid of the morning sickness and queasy tummy and the chips also helps take away the dizziness. (pssst...did Ely ever mentioned that she gets bouts of French fries cravings at 3pm every day? That shall be left unsaid!!!).

And I surely can remember back home, when my aunts and mom would advise the preggies to carry at least 2 inches of nail or a pair of pockets scissors (to ward off pontianak) and not wear wangi wangian when you're having a baby. Do not come home later than 7pm cos the spirits will follow you home (after the nail and scissors, even the robbers wouldn’t follow the preggies home!). Well…I did NOT say that I did not carry them sharp thingies when I was preggy last time, I had a pair of pocket scissors in my purse just to make my mom happy, but truly, I am glad that 'nothing' followed me home either. Maybe this time I should carry a nail file to replace the iPod nano that’s in my purse? And I am lucky that its spring, the sun doesn’t go to sleep till 8pm…so Ely has time to check out the mall after work and still be back in broad daylight!

I am getting advise from the gynae that I could have as many cats and sleep with as many cats that I want but not to change the cat litter at any time during pregnancy. If I wouldn’t have to give up the kitties, I am ay okay! But the parents says that the cat dander will effect the baby. Relaks mak and bapak, Ely will be ok! OK????

But I truly believe in the '30 day confinement' period. Taking jamu, bengkung (no bengkung, girdle also can), pilis and parem (I have adverse reaction to parem, gives me the headache instead of getting rid of it). No cold drinks for 30 days, no going out etc etc. That I do believe. But as we know, this is America, where the moms take their babies out as soon as they get out of the hospital and attack McDonalds for their first meal together. Some would even wear shorts and slippers in the cold…aiyooooo. But there is no tukang urut here. Called the indonesian consulate (have a friend there) asking them if they have tukang pijit…nope! Oh well…I will have to make do without makcik urut!

And readers, please do not be fooled by my picture and think that I still look good. Thats all makeup and cover up work hehehe. I put more eye makeup highlighter in the morning to make my eyes look fresh, more eyeshadow for that eyeliner and more rouge to not make myself look pale. Thats to take the attention AWAY from my mushy tush and bloated belly!

Can anyone remember any bizarre superstitions for preggies?

How did my weekend go?

It surely has not been a bad weekend so far.

A cousin called on Thursday evening saying,'Hello, I'm here!!!'....so I asked,'Here as in where? Geylang?'...'Nolah, here in San Francisco! I just flew in from Oregon and was deployed to San Jose for a few days before flying back to Singapore'. Nice...he was visitor number 5 who would call only when they are geographically here in San Francisco with no advance notice. But we're used to it. Being hosts...we get overjoyed with friends and relatives who call when they're here, last minute or not, but happy that they think of us!

So the weekend was all about the son and his first baseball game, and a cousin whom I have not seen in 2 years.







So far, I am doing OK. I can admit, I think I have gained one or two more pounds. The tummy has mysteriously grown overnight. I officially can't fit into my Levis 515 Low Rise anymore. The maternity jeans fits me in the waist and tummy now but the thighs and hips still 'dangling' (means still oversized lah). The maternity t shirts fit me like a glove too. Sigh...baby number 3, seems like the tummy will be 3 times bigger.

The next gynae appointment will be on Wednesday, hoopefully, more update! Stay tuned...

Patience...

…a very very challenging word in my life right now which I do not have much choice but to have it close to my ears, heart and head!

First comes patience with my own body. I feel that my body is a factory, lots of things happening 'down there', 'in there' and 'up there'. From mild cramps, to back ache to nausea to weakness in my body. When I get home, all I want to do is to be in bed, watch Dr Phil and doze off! I keep aplogizing to the kids for being such a weakling. That ibu does not mean to shun them off but ibu has no energy to sometimes have a conversation with them. But its great when they come to the bed to talk to me instead.

Then patience for the kids. My son, who is 13, has learned some 'not so good' elements in life. Not that hes turning into a bad boy…but sometimes this boy (or like many other boys) feel that honesty is not the best policy? Or that homework is not mandatory or that he just does not care of his surroundings at home and losing his $29 a month bus pass and not even telling us. Here comes the paps and ibu having to give him lectures at home on how to be responsible (I am sure he had heard it 100x) and that doesn’t work, we do not spare the rod.

The daughter, who is 12, has not been nice to everyone lately. PMS aside, she has this pitch number 10 when she speaks to everyone at home. She would pick fights and loves to argue over nothing at 6am every morning. She can be a darling that’s for sure. She knows that ibu is mad when ibu doesn’t talk to her. Shes the most honest person on earth too!

The husband, now this one is a reversed patience. HE is the one who has been patient with my complains, my backache, and my cravings. Sometimes I do feel like I was ignoring him as all that I ever want to do at night is sleep. When I have my head in the toilet bowl, he rushes into the bathroom and has this wet towel ready to puy on my forehead to soothe the nausea. Needless to say about cooking dinner almost every night. With my moodiness, he has been a very patient husband. I wouldn’t know what I would do without him.

That’s why I keep telling myself that I have to be patient all the time. To count to 10 when I get mad at the kids. To cut them some slack for my sake. I do not want to get stressed and naik darah as I don’t have the energy to do so.

Sigh...

Blogging nowadays can sometimes be a drag….when I am still half awake every morning, hoping that everyday would be a weekend morning. How I wish!

Last Thursday was my first gynae appointment. She is also my new Dr after changing medical insurance from the lousy one last year. This Dr was recommended by my co workers, who apparently share the same panel of gynaes!

The weighing machine weighed me ….2 lbs heavier. Boleh tahan! If I didn’t wek wek, I must have gained 5 lbs! Then the visitation room. Since I hadn't had a PAP smear since 2 years ago (I believe in PAP smears every 3 years!), I was advised to wear this disposable pink surgical gown with the opening to the front. The gynae will also do a yearly breast exam for me. So there I was, in my pink gown, on the examination table, looking around the med office.

Hmmm…its been a while since I last saw a gynae due to pregnancy…the ultrasound machine looks different. Smaller, unlike 12 years ago. They also do electrolysis, permanent hair removal…which is VERY attractive to me (seriously thinking).

The gynae came in, very very nice asian lady, in her 30s. We sat and had a casual conversation, talked about ourselves. Making silly jokes about my last child being 12 years old, built in babysitters!

Then the PAP smear (which I hate) and the breast examinations were done. Not too bad. Then she did an ultrasound scan for the baby. The embryo was kinda big…then the jelly bean…teeny little jelly bean glistening…which was the heartbeat. It surely was nice and relieved to see that my baby is well, in the right position and with a heartbeat!

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The next appointment will be next week, this time the husband is coming along.

Lastly, I would like to thank Cik Adik Ayu kita tuh who has been tirelessly calling me though sometimes I really could not answer the phone due to Ely was puking, Ely was falling asleep or Ely was giving her husband a hard time. Ayu has been offering me food…volunteering to get me food should I get last minute cravings. Alas, when I am having morning sickness, I don’t crave! I assured Ayu that the time for her to bring me food will come very soon…just standby! We all at home love you Ayu!

UPDATED : Terkenan kan si dia tuh....

Does this ring the bell? If you like or hate a certain person when you're pregnant, your baby will grow up to be like that person. I remember my late ex mom in law, who terkenan kan this indian boy who was selling mee rebus at her doorstep. When she was pregnant with the ex husband, she bought mee rebus from this boy every day without fail. When the baby was born, the ex was the only dark skinned person among his siblings.

There was also an incident about my cousin. The cousin and his pregnant wife was at the airport in Singapore, sending a relative off. While they were bidding goodbye, a white blonde boy fell in front of his pregnant wife. The cousin helped the little boy up and rubbed his forehead. 4 months later, the baby was born with a patch of blonde on his bangs and I kid you not…the color still exists and hes almost 20 years old now!

So that’s why the old people would advise for pregnant women and their husbands to be nice to others, don’t hate anyone, don’t torture animals and so on.


But I wouldn’t mind if I had a son, that my son would look like the Rock hehehehe.

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Update : Sunday 2pm

Ahhhh, Ely's feeling better today. Took the gynae's advise to continue taking Vitamin B6 and half of Unisom (sleeping aid pill) every night and the morning sickness would be reduced. Indeed it has, besides me feeling sleepy and trying to get use to taking Unisom earlier at night so that I could rise at 5:30am on weekdays.

So...Saturday, I craved for Nasi Lemak. Malas nak masak so the husband brought me to the Singaporean Restaurant...sedaaapp!!! Tak sedap pun rasa macam sedap tekak orang mengandung nih. $6 for a huge plate of Nasi Lemak...gasak lah.

Sunday, I am craving for roti jala and curry. So I went to the supermarket, get the stuff for the roti (thank goodness the husband bought meat from our arabic mak angkat the night before) and here I was 'jala' ing with my daughter being the back up.

Then the husband says that we have to cook the ground beef that had been sitting in the fridge for days. He suggested Sheperd's Pie...SURE...I made not one but TWO Sheperd's pies and put them in the fridge for tomorrow's dinner. The other pie maybe we could split them in 4 so that we ALL could take a portion to work/school for lunch.

Haaaaahhh.....puas hati! Bayar niat tak dapat masak since many weeks ago!

Oh yeah, if you're curious on how to make delicious Roti Jala and Sheperd's Pie, go visit my Recipe Blog ok!

Akan Datang (Coming Soon) -- My first prenatal visit to the gynaecologist...watch out for it!

Wek wek and more wek

5:30am – woke up, dear husband handed me a piece of bread (to supposedly ward of morning sickness)
6am – in the bathroom, face in toilet bowl, felt like I threw up my whole nerve system, including my eyes, mouth ears and all that.
7am- all dressed up, face all green. I knew that I wouldn’t make it to work without being sick.
7:30am- called office to tell them that I will not be in the office. How nice, my co worker, volunteered to feed my fishy (yes, I have a fishy at work) a few times a day. Kesian mamat tuh lapar mummy dia takder kat ofis.
9:30am – I knew that I couldn’t eat ANYTHING without throwing up but had to eat. So I cooked ramen noodles with very little seasoning.
10am – threw up what I ate. Aiyoooooo….so weak. Couldn’t even watch tv as its under the turning ceiling fan…mabuk!
10:30-1pm- slept, nak makan for sure keluar balik.
1pm-4pm- slept again.
4pm- kids came back from school, asking me if I ate, I said no. the daughter urged me to eat. So I had a toast. Rushed to lay in bed, hoping that the toast would stay in my tummy.
6pm- husband cooked dinner. Grilled chicken and some rice pilaf. The smell of the grilled chicken, enough to kill my respiratory system. The sell of the pilaf, eeewww.
7pm- time to eat. I chewed on a broccoli and 2 spoonfuls of pilaf. Husband, had a plate of pilaf and 2 huge chicken breasts. I ran straight to the bathroom, head in the bowl. The broccoli and the pilaf just came back out. Nothing much in there…
7:30pm- went to the pharmacy, got some Vitamin B6 (known to reduce dizziness and nausea).
8pm – had 25mg of the Vitamin B6, felt better in 20 mins. Had some Healthy Mom bar for pregnant ladies bought by dear husband.

In short, I only managed to have 2 bars of Health Mom health bar which have a total of only 52 gm of carbs for the day. I know, its not good at all. But I woke up feeling better today. Its only 6:30am, had another 25mg of Vitamin B6 and a bar of Healthy Mom. If I have to eat Healthy Mom everyday…who cares, as long as the food stays in me.

At least I am not feeling dizzy now, but still not feeling great. Still feeling dehydrated from not eating yesterday. Still not going to work, need another day to hydrate myself.

Tomorrows, going to be a somewhat long day. Early morning visit to the vet for Tuco, who needs a blood curve test or his diabetes, leave him there and to work. Appointment with the gynecologist tomorrow.

Cravings, something that I thought would not even cross my mind especially when I am having my morning sickness…no, let me correct that, not morning sickness but ‘all day sickness’!

Yes, no kidding, this sickness strikes at any time of the day. Mostly mornings, but other days., it could be at 12pm, 3pm, 5pm, after dinner and even 3am! These sea bands that I am wearing sometimes do not work at all. Ginger ale does not work, whole wheat bread in the morning before getting off bed works for only an hour but does not take the nausea away. But yesterday, I discovered Preggy Pops, which somewhat helped a little bit. No toilet bowl incident yesterday, so that’s a progress right?

But it can be a chore eating food nowadays. Nothing tastes right to me. I was craving for mee siam, cooked some yesterday with my heart and soul. All ready to eat, but after 5 bites, I had to put it aside. Just couldn't swallow it! Same goes with any noodle soup that I could be craving for. The only food that I can stomache right now is plain rice and sushi. Sigh...

Back to cravings, I have one minor (which can turn into a major one if not tended) craving. Frozen chocolate covered bananas!!! I knew that I could get them at Trader Joe’s and my cravings would be fulfilled. But hey, they were out on that those frozen bananas. That was wrong wasn’t it? So my gf called me over the weekend and I deployed her to go to her Trader Joe’s to see if she could get them frozen bananas for me….no luck! It could be a county wide out of stock for frozen bananas at Trader Joe’s.

Then Ely’s craving turned into code red. Ely must have frozen chocolate covered bananas. Tak boleh tahan! So, then I decided to make my own. Bought some bananas, froze them, melted the semi sweet chocs, dipped them bananas, voila! Jadi jugak!

I have been cravings for bananas lately…tak kisah lah how the bananas come in, fried, steamed, dipped or whatever. Maybe I am expecting a boy hehehehe.

Bummy Tummy...

1st born : tummy did not really show at 9 months
2nd born : tummy REALLY showed at 9 months, baby was almost 8 lbs
3rd coming : almost 7 weeks along, pants fit fine, but the tummy area is bursting.

Do you believe in that? According to theory, when a mother is pregnant and if its not her 1st born, her tummy tends to show sooner than her 1st born due to lack of elasticity. Of course the theory refuses to say that its due to the extra paunch and skin that we get from the other previous newborns.

I know that I can't fit into my low rider Levis and GAP jeans as it will pinch my bladder to the bathroom. So now I am relying on my work clothes, which I guess still has an inch or 2 for the baby to grow. But I already have a pair of maternity pants ready…which is too big after washing and drying them. The sales assistant says that it would surely fit me sooner or later but hello…I need them jeans NOW not later geddit?

As for the boobs problem. Now I have to wear a pair of sports bra to support them girls when I go to sleep without feeling the cut of them underwires. I know the sports bra would not last me much longer as them girls are running in different directions PLUS the weight.

Do you smell raging hormones here? Hmmm, I thought I wasn’t raging much until the husband says,'Its ok Ely, calm down, here give me a hug…everything will be ok'. And I was like 'what the heck is he doing?'. He said that I had been yelling a lot lately and I said 'WHO SAYS THAT I HAVE BEEN YELLING?' ooopss, I guess I did huh? Maybe my ears are getting deaf due to pregnancy besides forgetting a few things here and there at times. Thank goodness the savior boss understands my situation when he sees me yawn when hes talking, or when I totally do not get what he is talking about…I'm getting spacey. Kesian aku…

Anyway, nothing much else to report about. Its only 11:45am here and I am already thinking of bed sweet bed!

GREAT WEEKEND EVERYONE!

I tend to realize again...

Do you believe that every change in your life comes with a reason? Does it make you do a self reflection?

As soon as I saw the pregnancy test and the result was what we had been waiting for, we were all delighted. Unlike being a first time mom, I was not afraid, not nervous…just excited that our family is growing. Growing into a bigger happy family.

Then after a few days, the self-reflection began. Is our family going to be bigger, stronger and happier? And what have I done and will do in my part to make my family as such? With the bundle of joy, this little one will be LOVE by itself. Like peope say, big stuff come in small packages!

Also, while I am going through a body change, turning into one huge potato and eventually walk like a penguin before the little one burst out in due time, I tend to feel…a feeling that only mothers could feel….the love for my kids.

I realize now that I love my kids so much, that no other material could replace them. What made me realize this? Well you know, in our everyday lives, we tend to take things for granted. We know that we love our kids ands spouse but sometimes a good significant change could make us realize that we love them THAT much!

The kids' response to the pregnancy, the way they treat me extra special, panicking when I start throwing up and making sure that I swallow that cookie, though I am trying not to eat junk food in this early stage, is enough to show that they love me, they care and that they want to be part of the pregnancy. But this does not make them perfect kids…they still bicker, don’t listen to their parents at times and tend to slack in their chores.

And all I have to say about my lovely kids is that, Ibu loves you more than anyone else in this world!!! And I know that our family will definitely be bigger, stronger and happier.

No, how can I forget the husband…who is part of this conception? Priceless as his expression was when he first saw the digital pregnancy test, he has been the wonderful husband that I have dreamed of all my life (ahemm, am I sounding fake yet? Hehe). He's there to hear me whine 'Oh I have lost 5 more lbs, how can that be?', 'Oh I am not feeling good…I am sleepy…now I am nausea!'. And he's the one in the kitchen getting me that whole wheat bread at 5:30 in the morning to contain the morning sickness. I think I have also heard him saying to the kids,'Now, make sure your ibu does not do laborous chores. You need to help her whenever you can OK?'.

I went to the Motherhood boutique the other day and was looking at maternity outfits (must 'aim' which ones I like first!) and the sales assistant asked if I would like to to try some outfits on. I said 'Nah, the husband's waiting outside, don’t want to rage him'. The sales assistant then said,'Oh don’t worry, he will wait. Husbands are nicer to pregnant wives you know!'. Aaaahhhh. How right she is!

So last night, I was browsing on the internet looking for walking shoes. The husband said,'You have already bought that Coach purse online today…what are you looking for now?'. And I responded,'But husband, I am pregnant! I need a pair of walking shoes!!!' Hah! That’s exactly what the husband said…hah! Ooooh, now I need to find a Coach wallet to match the purse too!

Why is the world spinning?

The morning sickness has begun. Thats why the font of this entry is purple...just like my face.

I thought that I could escape from this, like when I was having my 2nd child.

Oh how wrong I was.

Ely is trying to find a way to prevent/cure this morning sickness. She's on a mission...

I had bread 30 minutes before I got out of bed. That seemed to work. I might try the 'sea sick' band today and see if it works wonders for me like others. But first I must survive the bus and train ride and the walk to the pharmacy to buy the band.

If I seem to be 'missing in action' in the next few days...please understand that I am fine...just sick as a dawg!

But I shall not forget you...

Taaa...

ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzZZZZZ...

Have you ever fallen asleep while sitting with friends and having a conversation at a restaurant?

Have you ever fallen asleep when your boss turns away from you and is having a conversation with a co worker? You don't want to get caught sleeping on the job...but you can't explain why you doze off in a snap of a finger.

Have you also ever felt so sleepy, that whatever the people around you were talking about, you felt like you were still in dreamland?

Well people...thats what I am feeling now...zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz...eerrr sorry i fell asleep.

As the journey begins...

The crave was with a reason
The PMS was a sign
The late period I thought was like last month
But what do you know, it surely was a surprise….

You see, my second precious one is 12 now. Imagine, being pregnant again after 12 years! I am like a dummy all over again!

The kids were very ecstatic when they heard the news. The daughter has chosen a name if it was a girl. I secretly have chosen a name if it was a boy. The husband? He was so excited on the day that I did the 2nd pregnancy test, went to work and broadcasted to the entire office!

I am almost 6 weeks along. Changes in my body? Well…I think my PMS has gone away, sometimes moody but most times sleepy. I would sleep at every chance I get. Sleep during lunch time, nap 3x a day on weekends and bedtime is like 9pm for me.

My lower back is aching, can’t sit for too long. And I need to walk every 20 mins or I would fall asleep. I am tired all the time but not feeling hungry all the time yet. I don’t think I have gained any weight besides feeling bloated and seeing the boobs expanding (milk factory on the way!). I think I have even lost more weight past weeks as my regular pants are lose in the groin…like they aren’t mine.

It seems like I wouldn’t have to go too far from my diet. According to the pregnancy book that I bought (yes I am that pathetic…I need a book!), it is advisable to eat low sugar, low carb food and lots of salad. Sounds like me. BUT 4-5 servings of whole wheat bread or noodles…that’s kinda hard for me. I have to remind myself that I have to eat bread more than I did. I still have not exercised for a week, guilty! I don’t think I will till the next dr’s appointment which will be in 2 weeks. In the meantime, I am just enjoying the long long long walks during lunch…if I decided not to sleep instead!

My face looks tired all the time. Some co workers say that I always look tired (they don’t know that I am baking a bun) and I told them that I have not been feeling well lately.

12 years, that was a long time ago since I got pregnant. It was like starting all over again, but with 2 babysitters this time :)

Update : Same day, 2:30pm

Received the prenatal blood tests from the Dr. Not that I REALLY know how to read it well. But according to the blood level that I have and the scale given, all my levels in the blood are good. The HCG level is fine, as per how far along I am (meaning: the further along I am in the pregnancy, the higher the HCG level will be). Now I can sleep better...knowing that everything is fine, insyaAllah.

ps....don't you just love the beauty of sushi buffet???????????

There is...

a bun in the oven...

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