Si Wedok & Si Lanang

which means, the girl and the boy in javanese. Yeah I will never get done talking about my kids...

This summer, I see quite a change in my daughter Masturah. She had always been the quiet one when she was out of the house. She used to like being by herself and didn’t like to do anything with her friends over the weekend, unlike my son Matt.

Sometimes we tried to push her to go visit her girlfriends, call them or invite them to our house. But she would always say,’Nah, I like being by myself.’ So duk fikir, apasal lah budak nih anti social betul. Normal ker?

But lately, she is starting to come out of her shell. Mungkin selepas baligh tuh rasa seakan her confident terserlah kot? She is starting to have a best friend and talking on the phone for a long time. Aaaah, sudah bagus…she is starting to make friends! Then slowly, she is starting to chat and email her girlfriend. Then now that she is in the summer program, she makes even more friends, the phone doesn’t stop ringing and she gets visitors to the house almost everyday! I am so glad…so glad that my daughter is normal.

I know, some of you might think that I worry too much. Bukan apa, my son is very sociable, he makes friends and goes for sleepovers. But Masturah seemed to show that she was a loner. Macam terbalik pulak pesen kan? Usually girls are more sociable than boys. But at least I know now that she is making friends and loving it. Not just that, she is also talking to Matt’s friends and being friendly with them. And that’s good.

Now Mas is so into trying to be the Gothic look girl. Has that studded bracelet and belt, black of everything and she is still begging for permission to wear the black nail polish which is oh so tidak!!!

You see, being in a mixed racial family, David is more encouraging with the kids making friends, regardless of their sex. He says that when the kids reach a certain age, old enough for them to date, we have to try not to say no. But of course me being the mother, I get a little bit more strict than David. But then he said something that made sense to me, ‘Letting them date does not mean that we’re freeing them. They want to date? Sure, we send them to where they wanna go and pick them up in 2 hours! No dilly dally.’ OKlah, I thought that might be a good idea to tackle this scenario in years to come.

Now that Matt is turning 16 in 4 years, I am so not looking forward for him getting that driver’s license and pay $1.6k for his insurance! He is almost 13 years old and dah pandai pandang2, tengok2 anak orang lain (faham2 jer lah what I meant by that). The husband can be such a tease,'Its OK, let him look around first. He is discovering new things'. The husband also says that he needs to learn to be a gentleman and it has to start from home, towards his mom and sister. To not be selfish, to offer getting the ladies some water, opening the door and all that. Well, he still forgets once in a while, but thats OK, he's still in training. It sure isn't easy being a natural gentleman tau!!!

Aaaaahhh, the house is so quiet now, Matt had a sleepover and then fishing with his friend, Masturah is a the park with her new girlfriend, Christina. Aman....